Esther, Mark Driscoll, and using rape to control women

 [Trigger warning for rape apologism and Mark Driscoll quotes]Growing up, the book of Esther was always my favorite because it featured two very brave women.First, there was Vashti. I've loved Vashti ever since a grade school teacher came to class dressed up as Vashti and told us the story about how she had been exiled by the king because she asserted herself and refused to dance for the king's drunken friends. She was a brave woman who claimed her body as her own--rather than her t … [Read more...]

Healing

 Trigger warnings for rape and for a slightly gory pictureI was raped.Sometimes I just need to say those words. They hurt. Every time I say them they hurt. But they're true, and someday I'm hoping that truth will set me free.I haven't always been able to admit that I was raped. At one time it was actually safer to think that it had been my fault. It was easier to blame myself than it was to admit I'd been powerless, because, to me, powerlessness was far more terrifying than … [Read more...]

Rape: A Punishment for Egalitarians?

[Trigger warnings for rape and abuse] Sometimes, conservative Christians are able to cover up the fact that their bad theology is often used to enable abusers, cover up abuse, and blame victims. Then, sometimes, they slip and people see everything and their attempts to convince people that they do not condone abuse seem laughable.This is what happened today when Jared Wilson of The Gospel Coalition published this article, a critique of 50 Shades of Gray which consists of a quote from a book b … [Read more...]

Fear or Love?

Growing up in a Fundamental Baptist high school, I heard some ridiculous arguments against feminism. My favorite goes something like this: Feminists secretly hate women! That's right! They hate women, and let me tell you why! They want women to be equal to men. That means, they think women don't need men. Feminists won't let men hold doors open for them or pay for their dates. And they won't let men protect them! Chivalry is DEAD because of feminists. That's right.Oh, and don't forget. Fe … [Read more...]

Why I’m not signing a petition against Mark Driscoll

*Trigger Warning for rape and spiritual abuse (but don't worry--if you get upset, just click on any mention of Driscoll's name for an adorable fluffy bunny)*In case you're not as obsessed with the Christian blogosphere as I am, there's been a petition going around asking Liberty University to keep Mark Driscoll from speaking there. When I saw the petition being circulated by several progressive bloggers, you know this radical feminist had to check it out. So, I clicked, and I read and...(are … [Read more...]

Rape does NOT equal sex, Jeff Bethke!

Trigger Warnings: We're talking about rape again today.A couple weeks ago, when the "Jesus vs. Religion" video was making it's rounds on the internet, I decided to respond with my opinion that, religion really isn't such a bad thing. That Jesus and religion can get along. Back then, I wasn't angry at the video's creator, Jeff Bethke (though, perhaps I was a bit annoyed at how much he was clogging up my Facebook newsfeed). I was just trying to figure out for myself what place religion had in my … [Read more...]

Sometimes you fight. Sometimes you pray for peace.

It's been a rough week for many of us survivors of rape.Some of the responses to Joe Paterno's death (the one's that blantently stated that we should forget his role in enabling the rape of young boys in light of his awesome football legacy) had been fighting back panic attacks, tears, hate, and rage as I tried so hard not to let anger suck away all the joy and healing that I've managed to find over the past few years. Walking the line between a desire to love/forgive and a desire to live in a … [Read more...]

Rape culture, Relevant Magazine, and other things that make me want to swear a lot

Trigger warnings: rape, and rape enablingSome of the responses to Joe Paterno's death were triggering for me. You know, the ones that basically say (albeit in much more eloquent terms), "Everyone, shut up about the rape victims and how they're feeling! Joe Paterno was really good at winning football games! Can't we just talk about that?"As a rape victim, this was painful to hear, but not unexpected. As soon as I heard of his death (or rather, as soon as the media falsely reported his death … [Read more...]

So, what about the men?

1 in 6 boys will be sexually assaulted by age 18.*1 in 33 men will be experience completed or attempt rape in his lifetime.*52% of gay men will experience coercion from a partner*22% of male prison inmates will be raped during their incarceration**Out of all the victims of murder by an intimate partner, about 1/4 are male.***Even as victims, men who leave abusive female partners have a high risk of losing custody of their children.****And, even though it is estimated that men make up … [Read more...]

Is it wrong to steal a car?

Is it wrong to steal a car?What if the owner of that car was basically asking for it to be stolen?What if the owner washed it every day so it was as shiny as possible? What if he left it in his drive-way for all the world to see?He didn't make any attempts to cover it up. He didn't hide how great of a car it was.What if he even let people from the neighborhood touch his car, or sit in the passenger seat if they asked? What if he gave people free rides all the time?So how could someone … [Read more...]


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