Love and the mystery of men and women

I've been reading bell hook's book All About Love: New Visions. In it, she stresses the importance of defining love so that we can't be controlled by abusive people who claim to love us. She borrows her definition of love from M. Scott Peck: "the will to extend one's self for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth...Love is as love does. Love is an act of will--namely, both an intention and an action." hooks later discusses our culture's reluctance to define love: It i … [Read more...]

Unseduced and Unshaken: A Book Review

   The following is a book review of Rosalie de Rosset's book, Unseduced and Unshaken: The Place of Dignity in a Young Woman's Choices. I've been given a copy of the book to give to one of my readers, so if you're interested in a free book, leave a comment!  When I first began reading Unseduced and Unshaken (which one of my twitter followers joked sounded like what you'd get when you played a James Bond film backwards), though there were a few aspects of it that made … [Read more...]

Last Valentine’s Day…

Last Valentine's Day was hard.I had had plans, of course. I was going to continue the tradition that my boyfriend and I had started two years earlier where we give each other President's Day cards instead of Valentine's Day cards. The card was still sitting in my desk drawer. It said, "You baRACK! You're da oBAMa!"But now the plans were cancelled because there was no one to give the stupid card to anymore and the student union was rubbing it in my face with all the hearts on the walls that … [Read more...]

Weekend links!

Here are a few of my favorite moments from the internet this week! Enjoy!"Five women who changed God’s rules" by Fred Clark at Slacktivist: Sometimes I don't think God's laws are fair. Sometimes they're sexist. Sometimes I let God know how I feel about those rules. Turns out, this makes me a "biblical woman," and turns out that, God listens to women. This article tells us of five women in the Bible who challenged one of God's unjust laws and paved the way for more equality for women of the an … [Read more...]

Continued thoughts on Nice Guy Syndrome

I recently wrote a post about Harold Lauder, a character from Stephen King's The Stand. I mentioned that Harold has a thing called "Nice Guy Syndrome."One criticism of that post came from a man who complained, "Can't be nice, can't be a jerk! It's tough being a male!"I'm truly sorry if anyone else got the vibe from my last post that I don't like nice guys. That wasn't my intent. In fact, I love nice guys. I'm dating one. I appreciate any man who goes out of his way to be kind to others. I am … [Read more...]

My deepest, darkest secret

As long-time readers of my blog (you folks are awesome!) already know, I've dedicated this blog to saying the things that the Church is afraid to say--to being brutally honest about my own struggles and mistakes and life choices. I haven't held much back.But I've got to be real with you all today.I've been hiding something.Something that I've been too proud to talk about.But it's time for pride to go before a fall...It's time for the truth to come out.Alright...deep breath...here … [Read more...]

The subtle signs of relationship abuse

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month.Are you aware of domestic violence?Of course you know it exists. Turn on Lifetime for five minutes and you'll figure that one out. But do we really understand what domestic violence looks like?When you think of an abusive relationship, you may think of physical violence, bruises, and yelling. But the fact is, in most cases, by the time these obvious symptoms appear, the abuse has probably been going on for while.The roots of domestic violence … [Read more...]

“Unwilling Desperado:” A guest post!

Today's guest post is from my good friend, Abe Kobylanski. I hope you'll enjoy his thoughts about singleness and the church's view of marriage! And be sure to check out his blog at Images and Words. So, being a 27-year-old Christian male is pretty weird. The average marriage age for an American male is 28, so I still have a few months to go before I break that social norm. But if I had to guess, I would guess the average age for a first marriage for Christians would be around 22. In other … [Read more...]

Is the church a few steps behind?

I've never heard a pastor talk positively about the feminist movement.But when I read my Bible and see verses where Jesus tells Martha to get out of the kitchen and sit at his feet like a disciple, and when I see verses where Paul tells men in an oppressively patriarchal society to love, serve, and sacrifice for the "property" known as their wives, I can't deny it...Jesus is all for setting women free.Jesus is all about overthrowing society's power structures.I don't believe I should … [Read more...]

Thoughts and feelings

The following is an exchange between Sarah the Thinker and Sarah the Feeler. Feeler parts are in parenthesis because I often attempt to skip over them as though they don't matter as much. (But they do)I haven't seen much of my abusive ex-boyfriend since we broke up. He didn't stalk me or beg me to come back to him. He got over me faster than I got over him and he moved on and forgot I existed. So I shouldn't be afraid of him.(But I am)I saw him for the first time since the big breakup … [Read more...]


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