An Egalitarian submits

I said I wasn't going to write anything this weekend, but inspiration knocked and I answered! Plus, I felt like I needed to share these thoughts with you before I could discuss my doubts about feminism and egalitarianism. Enjoy!  I, Sarah Moon, the feminist, the egalitarian, the independent, 21st century woman, have a confession to make.... Sometimes I clean my boyfriend's apartment. Now, if you think I do so wearing a sun dress and pearls while whistling to that song from Snow White, … [Read more...]

Dear Razor Blade,

Dear Razor Blade, I'm sorry for what happened the other night, but the fact remains: I stopped cutting in November. The road got bumpy and the cutting bandwagon didn't have any seat-belts. I was emotionally vulnerable, and I know I shouldn't have brought you into my house the other night. But I did. What happened happened. I know I'll sound like a jerk for saying this (until I remember that you're an inanimate object and I'm only writing you a letter because I enjoy personification), but the … [Read more...]

Words bruise

As I've discussed in several of my posts lately, my first boyfriend was abusive. He didn't hit me very often (in fact, I only remember him hitting me once). He didn't need to. He could bench press 300 lbs, so I was just a rag doll to him. He pushed me around, threw me into things, or picked me up and shook me when he was angry. If I tried to run away, he would grab my arm so tightly that it would leave bruises in the shape of his hand. Those things hurt. They hurt badly. And the bruises were … [Read more...]

Love by leaving

How do you love a boyfriend that abuses you? How do you treat an abusive girlfriend like Jesus would treat her? How do you forgive a person without letting him/her hurt you again? Ever since I broke up with my abusive first boyfriend five years ago, I've been searching for answers to this question. If I had treated him better... If I had stayed with him longer... If I hadn't responded with violence at the end (our break up involved me punching him in the face out of … [Read more...]

Sometimes when I think of Grammar, I think of Love.

"You complete me." "You're my missing puzzle piece." "I need you." "I'm nothing without you" Are these really the kinds of phrases that should be associated with true love? When society puts so much emphasis on romantic relationships, it's easy to build all of our confidence on these relationships. Then when they fall apart, we are left feeling empty, incomplete, broken. When we can't find a romantic relationship, we feel that our lives are missing something. I think that the healthiest … [Read more...]

Things I have (un)learned since high school:

In high school, people often told me that you go to high school to learn, and then you go to college to unlearn everything you learned in high school. Over the past two years, I have found that to be true. Some of the things I have (un)learned about life since graduating high school have completely turned my world upside-down. Though at many times during this process of "world rearrangement" I felt like I was going to fall off, life looks far sweeter from this new perspective than it ever did … [Read more...]