On Proverbs, Job, and Why Victim Blaming is Next to Blasphemy

Image from William Blake's Illustrations of the Book of Job (via wikipedia commons)[Job in anguish, being comforted by his three friends and his wife]

I've been taking a class on the Psalms and Wisdom Literature, and reading both the books of Job and the books of Proverbs, which seem to take a drastically different approach to the topic of blaming victims.Proverbs is filled with statements about the way the world supposedly works: People who despise advice will find themselves in trouble; those who respect it will succeed (13:13)Poor is he who works with a negligent hand, But the hand of the diligent makes rich. (10:4)Commit your … [Read more...]

A Benediction for My Fellow Queer Christians

For personal safety reasons, I'm going to ask anyone who chooses to share this post to please not tag me on any social media sites. Thank you.   ______________It's not a sin to be gay, lesbian, or bisexual. And I don't mean it like some folk mean it--"It's not a sin to be gay! Just to act on your gayness." To quote my grandmother-in-law, "That's horse piss!" Acting gay, lesbian, or bisexual--finding members of your own sex attractive; crushing on, dating, marrying, flirting with, and/or sl … [Read more...]

Modest Is Hottest: A Guest Post for No Shame Movement

Today, I'm over at No Shame Movement sharing my story about growing up in Christian purity culture. Check it out! Also, be sure to read the other stories at NSM, and follow No Shame Movement on Twitter! “What would happen if I bought this shirt three sizes too small?” I joked to my sister, as we waited for my mom to finish up her shopping at the Christian bookstore. The shirt in question was a woman’s tee shirt with the words “Modest Is Hottest” across the front.The sizes seemed to line up w … [Read more...]

Can detachment from others serve life?

Calls for empathy and compassion toward oppressors and abusers are popular in American Christianity. I think this is true of a variety of branches of Christianity, although more conservative branches may express this empathy differently from more liberal branches. Not really surprising--after all, Jesus told us to love our enemies. Jesus said "Father, forgive them." Jesus was always being moved with compassion.Empathy and compassion can be great things. But after leaving fundamentalism, I … [Read more...]

Proverbs of Ashes and suffering to save our oppressors

I'm currently reading through Proverbs of Ashes by Rita Nakashima Brock and Rebecca Ann Parker. In the chapter I'm reading, Parker shares some thoughts about several different theologies of suffering and what these theologies say to and about survivors of abuse.One of the theologies Parker addresses is the "moral influence" theology of suffering (pg. 41). This theology states that by accepting violence, as Christ did on the cross, we can appeal to the conscious of our oppressors and change t … [Read more...]

#PlanetCCM: Five Iron Frenzy, the Soundtrack to My Deconversion (and Reconversion)

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Content Note: Discussion of suicide and depressionMy husband (fiancé at the time) went to a Five Iron Frenzy show last year, shortly after the band reunited and started touring again. When we walked out of the concert venue, we both started to say something at the same time, then stopped, and laughed."You first," I said."No you.""Alright. I was just thinking that Five Iron Frenzy kind of makes me believe in God again. Maybe being a Christian doesn't have to be horrible. What were … [Read more...]

Embodied Faith is a Faith I Can Live With

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Today, I'm guest posting at Suzannah Paul's blog on the topic of Embodied Faith. This is a really important topic to me--the idea that my faith matters to my body and to the experiences I have in my body has been so healing and freeing for me. So, I hope you'll check out my post and the other posts in Suzannah's series on Embodied Faith!Here's a quick preview: What theological insight can I gain from my body and from my bodily experiences?In my depression, I can meet with the suffering … [Read more...]

I write from my wounds and they don’t hear Jesus

Today I saw a tweet by a liberal (?), progressive (?), doesn't-think-gay-people-should-have-sex-but-probably-changed-their-FB-profile-picture-to-the-HRC-logo-a-few-months-ago (yeah, that's it) Christian blogger I once read and appreciated. It said, If you only write from your wounds from an abstract “Church” and you no longer root yourself to a body of believers, I don’t hear Jesus. I can't help but think that many of the liberalish evangelical or post-evangelical bloggers I once followed and l … [Read more...]

If Jesus is Lord, then Caesar is not.

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Last night at church, my pastor talked about the phrase "Jesus is Lord," and what that phrase means. After church, a fellow church goer was wanting to start a conversation about what "Jesus is Lord" means to different people and asked if I would write a blog post on the subject.My relationship with the idea that "Jesus is Lord" is complicated in a couple of ways. First of all, as someone who identifies as both a Unitarian Universalist and a Christian, I am wary of the exclusive mindset such … [Read more...]

Maybe God is a “bitch”

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In the months following my decision to leave fundamentalism for good, I began to shy away from the idea of God as a God of wrath. No, how could God be wrathful? God is love. God isn't angry at us. God loves us.Maybe I was wrong.The wrath of God in fundamentalism is often used to talk about God sending little children to hell for taking a cookie out of the cookie jar. It's often used to talk about how God was so furious with us disgusting human beings that God had to use his own son, Jes … [Read more...]


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