Privilege, oppression, and being “nice”

Imagine you're standing there, minding your own business, and all of a sudden someone steps on your foot. You don't know if they're doing it on accident or on purpose--all you know is, it hurts.So, you tell the person standing on your foot, "Oww! Get off my foot!"The person standing on your foot responds by stomping down even harder, saying, "I didn't mean to stand on your foot. Why do you have to yell at me?" As they dig their heel further into your foot, they say, "I'd stop, but you … [Read more...]

“You Are Not Your Own:” So, whose are you?

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This post is part of a series called“You Are Not Your Own,” focusing on rape and sexual assault in Christian relationship/dating booksTrigger Warning for rape, sexual assault, victim blaming, and dehumanizationNote: this research mainly focused on female rape, so I am not sure if the same trends toward rape myth acceptance would apply in cases of male rape. If anyone wants to see if research has been done on that subject and report back, feel free. Though it is not the focus of my proj … [Read more...]

“You Are Not Your Own” Series: Religion and Rape Myth Acceptance

This post is part of a series called“You Are Not Your Own,” focusing on rape and sexual assault in Christian relationship/dating booksTrigger Warning for rape, sexual assault, victim blaming, and dehumanizationNote: this research mainly focused on female rape, so I am not sure if the same trends toward rape myth acceptance would apply in cases of male rape. If anyone wants to see if research has been done on that subject and report back, feel free. Though it is not the focus of my proj … [Read more...]

Guidelines for a holistic sexual ethic, part 3

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If you haven't read my other two posts on sexual ethics, I suggest you do so to get the full context. The first post can be found here, and the second here.As a reminder, I've been talking about a few basic guidelines that can help people form a holistic sexual ethic. I'm doing this to combat the idea that purity-culture and/or wait-til-marriage Christians have a monopoly on ethical sex, and the idea that waiting until marriage is in itself a holistic sexual ethic.In my last post on this … [Read more...]

Guidelines for a holistic sexual ethic, part 2

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The other day, I talked about how I've noticed over the past few months many Christians talking about "sexual ethics." I mentioned that, even Christians trying to move away from shaming and purity culture often fall into this dichotomy of "marital sex as ethical" vs. "premarital sex as dangerous, objectifying, and trying to avoid consequences."I think sexual ethics are important. I also think they look a little different from person to person. And Idefinitelythink that views which … [Read more...]

Guidelines for a holistic sexual ethic, part 1

I know I told you the other day that I would be too busy to post much this week. Well, that's true. I'm pretty busy. But when your choices are "write a paper for health class" and "write about SEX" which are you going to choose (unfortunately, my paper for health class is not about sex)?Really, though. I've been seeing conversations about sex circling throughout the blogging world, and I want to add my own thoughts. This isn't a response to anyone in particular, but the past few months I've … [Read more...]

When my abuser is welcome at the table, I am not.

It's the cool thing in more progressive branches of Christianity now to talk about how EVERYONE is welcome at the communion table. I should be glad about that, I guess.I mostly just serve communion to myself (sometimes a cat or two joins in) while locked in my bedroom nowadays. Not much of a "communion," I know. I'm probably committing all sorts of blasphemy, but that's the best I can do right now. Maybe if I swapped the leftover pizza that I use as the body of Christ for some Zoloft I'd be … [Read more...]

God as a woman, seeking out the marginalized

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One of the most popular images of God in the Bible is the image of God the shepherd. Through this image, we see God as a humble, but loving and protective man. A man who wants all of his sheep--99 out of 100 isn't enough!--to be safe.I particularly like this image, actually. It shows me a God that refuses to exclude the minority. A God that is not simply interested in getting in good with the popular crowd. It shows me a vision for God's kingdom as a safe space for the marginalized.But … [Read more...]

There are little lights everywhere.

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I used to believe that the Church was the light of the world.A beacon of hope to a lost and dying world.I don't believe that anymore, because I left the Church once. I slammed the door behind me and braced myself for the darkness. But when I stepped outside I saw light. I saw light everywhere like stars in a country sky.I'm glad I no longer believe that the Church is the last hope for a world lost in darkness.The Church can be so stingy with its light. … [Read more...]

“You Are Not Your Own” Series: On Traditional Gender Roles and Dehumanization

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This post is part of a series called“You Are Not Your Own,” focusing on rape and sexual assault in Christian relationship/dating booksTrigger Warning for rape, sexual assault, victim blaming, and dehumanizationNote: this research mainly focused on female rape, so I am not sure if the same trends toward rape myth acceptance would apply in cases of male rape. If anyone wants to see if research has been done on that subject and report back, feel free. Though it is not the focus of my proj … [Read more...]


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