The Answer To Sexual Shame is Not MORE Sexual Shame, Carson T. Clark

[Content Note: Sexual and Spiritual Abuse]When I was 16, I dated an abuser who was constantly coercing me into having sex with him. I had been raised in fundamentalist purity culture, so I thought of sex as something gross and scary. My boyfriend at the time tried to combat those feelings by sending me on guilt trips and by holding me to his manipulative, subjective standards of "responsibility."He'd say things like, "You hugging me turned me on. You're a horrible person if you turn a … [Read more...]

On Bob Jones University, and Letting Survivors Speak

Content Note: Rape, Sexual AssaultGrowing up expecting to go to Bob Jones University today was just another part of life as a member of an IFB (independent fundamental Baptist) church. Unless of course you were one of those heathens who went to Hyles-Anderson. Really, though, if you grew up in the IFB church and school that I grew up in, your options for acceptable colleges were limited. My choices were to go to Maranatha Baptist Bible College, Pensecola Christian College, Northland, or good … [Read more...]

Packin’ up and movin’ to Patheos!

Hey readers! It's official. I've made the move to Patheos Spirituality. The new URL is http://www.patheos.com/blogs/sarahoverthemoon/Check out my first post here!When I was a kid growing up in an independent, fundamental Baptist church, spirituality was a dirty word. When many independent fundamental Baptists thinks of “spirituality,” they think of pantheism, paganism, postmodernism, and Harry Potter (Harry Potter is, of course, the worst of these). To the fundamental Baptists I knew, “spiri … [Read more...]

Hello there, Patheos!

I think I want you to meet my family. Am I moving too quickly? I just have a really good feeling about us!

When I was a kid growing up in an independent, fundamental Baptist church, spirituality was a dirty word. When many independent fundamental Baptists thinks of "spirituality," they think of pantheism, paganism, postmodernism, and Harry Potter (Harry Potter is, of course, the worst of these). To the fundamental Baptists I knew, "spiritual" people were often depicted as lazy hippie-liberals who refused to commit to a specific religious belief so that they could justify having all the sex they … [Read more...]

We are thin spaces.

Sarah and her cat

I've been reading N.T. Wright's Surprised by Hope for several months now (with my internship, my research project, plus school and work, it's been a slow process). In one section he discusses an idea of the "theology of space." His discussion mostly revolves around whether or not churches should continue to have buildings.I have a lot of mixed feelings about church buildings, personally. I was sexually abused in a church nursery as a child, so for most of my life just walking into a church b … [Read more...]

On being a female body at a Christian college

[I wrote recently about learning to love my body for Lent. Part of that loving so far has involved some deep contemplation about where the fear and hatred come from. And I've realized something.Part of my body hatred, and by extension part of my self hatred, comes from the fact that oppressive people have used my female body  to justifying oppressing me.I hate my body and myself because, deep down, I blame my body (and thus myself) for the ways in which I've been hurt by others.Two e … [Read more...]

Why I’m a Unitarian Universalist

I want to talk about faith for a second.I'm a Unitarian Universalist. People often ask me what that means. Basically, it's an interfaith religion that celebrates diversity, yet finds unity. Unity is found, not an agreement on doctrine, theologies, images of God, etc. but on these seven principles (quoted from UUA.org):The inherent worth and dignity of every person; Justice, equity and compassion in human relations; Acceptance of one another and encouragement to spiritual growth in our … [Read more...]

Account and Countenance

Trigger Warning for intimate partner violence/verbal abuse and spiritual abuseI'm on a guest-posting streak apparently, because today I'm over at Dianna Anderson's blog talking  about images of God for her Account and Countenance series. I look around me, years later, and I see a Church that is terrified to look its theology in the face. I see a Church that is somehow okay with having two drastically different definitions of love—one for humans and one for God. I see a Church that holds God to … [Read more...]

Why Chris Rosebrough is Wrong: A Case for Ordaining Women (Guest Post By Travis Mamone)

Here are some thoughts from my friend Travis Mamone (who blogs about cool stuff like Doctor Who and theology here!) on why popular arguments against the ordination of women fall flat and why sometimes it's best to just step away from "theological bullies." He included a picture of a fluffy animal to represent Rosebrough but I couldn't get it to load, so for now, here is my cat in a tiny top hat. Enjoy!Like many of my fellow emergent Christians, I once tried to pal it up with fundamentalist … [Read more...]

No one’s Messiah

To Christian men and the churches they attend:I am not your Christ.Churches may try to put women on a cross, sacrificing them so that men may be pure and holy.But I am not your savior.Churches may expect women to keep silent, to hide their talents, their bodies, to sacrifice who they are to protect men from sin and shame.But I am coming down off of that cross.Churches may ask women to endure abuse for a season--like Christ endured crucifixion--so that abusive men might be saved.But … [Read more...]


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