Crippling lies and “tennis shoes” of truth

I recall vividly the first time I tried to leave my abusive relationship with my first boyfriend. We were driving home from church and I broke up with him in the car. He became angry, threatening to drive the car off the road and kill us both. So I did the logical thing and climbed out of the car at the next stop light. I started to run away. I was sure I could out-run him and somehow find my way home once I had lost him... But I was wearing high heeled shoes. That made things difficult. I … [Read more...]

The problem with generalization

I have been unable to avoid thinking about the issue of gender roles in our society and in the church. A few days ago, a famous pastor posted a facebook status calling people to mock "anatomically effeminate males," and reactions to this brought up some interesting discussion in the blogging world. "What gives us the right to call a man effeminate?" people wondered. Where do our standards come from? Inspired by others (especially Tyler L. Clark and Dianna E. Anderson) who were frustrated with … [Read more...]

Love by leaving

How do you love a boyfriend that abuses you? How do you treat an abusive girlfriend like Jesus would treat her? How do you forgive a person without letting him/her hurt you again? Ever since I broke up with my abusive first boyfriend five years ago, I've been searching for answers to this question. If I had treated him better... If I had stayed with him longer... If I hadn't responded with violence at the end (our break up involved me punching him in the face out of … [Read more...]

Sarah and Sarah

I look up to, and see myself in, many men in the Bible- Peter, and his impulsive, inconsistent, moments of spiritual passion; David, who processes his spiritual thoughts through his art; Thomas, who doesn't believe everything he hears, even if it means he gets scolded for it. Unfortunately, due to the fact that most of the Bible took place in an antiquated, male dominated society, there are significantly less women for me to look up to. As a feminist, I believe it is important for me to find … [Read more...]

“I shall seize Fate by the throat…”

Ludwig van Beethoven wrote the 9th Symphony while he was completely deaf. Read that sentence again. No, I know you already knew that. I don't care. Read it again. Let it sink in. Now, go ahead and listen to it. Especially pay attention to 2:50 and beyond, because that's where God personally comes down from heaven and sings through the choir. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F2lVQlBlDtU&feature=related Now, read that first sentence one last time. "Ludwig van Beethoven wrote the 9th Symphony … [Read more...]