“You Are Not Your Own” Series: On Traditional Gender Roles and Dehumanization

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This post is part of a series called“You Are Not Your Own,” focusing on rape and sexual assault in Christian relationship/dating booksTrigger Warning for rape, sexual assault, victim blaming, and dehumanizationNote: this research mainly focused on female rape, so I am not sure if the same trends toward rape myth acceptance would apply in cases of male rape. If anyone wants to see if research has been done on that subject and report back, feel free. Though it is not the focus of my proj … [Read more...]

Is there room for other perspectives in the evangelical conversation against purity culture?

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Today, @mslooola, who I follow on the Twitters (#FF her for more great tweets on the topic, by the way--can I do #FF on a blog? Is that cheating?), tweeted her thoughts on the recent trend of evangelicals calling out Purity Culture:Now, I have a lot of friends/acquaintances who are evangelical, who are speaking out against purity culture, and whose sexual ethic (regardless of their personal convictions on when you should have sex) revolves around consent, and respect for others' autonomy … [Read more...]

Elizabeth Smart, chewed gum, roses, cars, and me.

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Trigger Warning for Rape, Sexual Assault, and "Slut Shaming"As you may have seen, this storyabout rescued kidnapping survivor Elizabeth Smart has been making the rounds on the internet. Smart said she "felt so dirty and so filthy" after she was raped by her captor, and she understands why someone wouldn't run "because of that alone." Smart spoke at a Johns Hopkins human trafficking forum, saying she was raised in a religious household and recalled a school teacher who spoke once about … [Read more...]

On being a female body at a Christian college

[I wrote recently about learning to love my body for Lent. Part of that loving so far has involved some deep contemplation about where the fear and hatred come from. And I've realized something.Part of my body hatred, and by extension part of my self hatred, comes from the fact that oppressive people have used my female body  to justifying oppressing me.I hate my body and myself because, deep down, I blame my body (and thus myself) for the ways in which I've been hurt by others.Two e … [Read more...]

“Progressive” Christianity and Premarital Sex

Almost exactly one year ago, I read an article on Relevant Magazine that made me realize that I had absolutely no personal convictions to remain abstinent.I had grown up in the dead-center of the purity movement. I'd worn the silver rings, made the pledges, condescended to the teenage mothers, read the Joshua Harris books, and all the other lovely rituals that seem to be involved in that movement. However, after an abusive partner coerced me into sex and eventually raped me, I had to let go of … [Read more...]

Unseduced and Unshaken: A Book Review

   The following is a book review of Rosalie de Rosset's book, Unseduced and Unshaken: The Place of Dignity in a Young Woman's Choices. I've been given a copy of the book to give to one of my readers, so if you're interested in a free book, leave a comment!  When I first began reading Unseduced and Unshaken (which one of my twitter followers joked sounded like what you'd get when you played a James Bond film backwards), though there were a few aspects of it that made … [Read more...]

On Cornerstone…

I spent last Friday at the Christian music festival, Cornerstone, and I saw some interesting things. By interesting, I mostly mean vomit-inducing. Buzz Feed recently went to another Christian music festival, Creation, and wrote a post about their findings. I figured I'd do something similar, as someone familiar with (and highly critical of) Christian culture.People are going to say that I'm just bitter and angry because of this post. But, you know, maybe I am a little bitter and a little … [Read more...]

Same ol’ story.

Trigger warnings for sexual assault. "Once upon a time, there was a girl who was pure, virtuous, an angel in a white dress, and most importantly, a virgin. Then, one day, she met a boy and fell in love. Although the girl was committed to remaining pure, the boy kept pressuring her for more than she was willing to give. Using lies and manipulation, he convinced her to come into his bed. The girl feels dirty and worthless. Her purity gone. But then she begs Jesus for forgiveness from her sin. … [Read more...]

The church needs to do a better job of talking about sex, and it knows it.

The evangelical church (in general--every time I paint the church in broad strokes like this I get people who share church experiences that look nothing like the picture I've just created, and that's awesome! I love hearing about your positive church experiences!) needs to do a better job of talking about sex.I think we all know that. I think even most churches know that. In fact, a lot of churches will admit it up front.I went to a church once where the preacher even began his sermon by … [Read more...]

Why I’m not signing a petition against Mark Driscoll

*Trigger Warning for rape and spiritual abuse (but don't worry--if you get upset, just click on any mention of Driscoll's name for an adorable fluffy bunny)*In case you're not as obsessed with the Christian blogosphere as I am, there's been a petition going around asking Liberty University to keep Mark Driscoll from speaking there. When I saw the petition being circulated by several progressive bloggers, you know this radical feminist had to check it out. So, I clicked, and I read and...(are … [Read more...]


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