Same ol’ story.

Trigger warnings for sexual assault.  "Once upon a time, there was a girl who was pure, virtuous, an angel in a white dress, and most importantly, a virgin. Then, one day, she met a boy and fell in love. Although the girl was committed to remaining pure, the boy kept pressuring her for more than she was willing to give. Using lies and manipulation, he convinced her to come into his bed. The girl feels dirty and worthless. Her purity gone. But then she begs Jesus for forgiveness from her sin. … [Read more...]

Rape culture, Relevant Magazine, and other things that make me want to swear a lot

Trigger warnings: rape, and rape enabling Some of the responses to Joe Paterno's death were triggering for me. You know, the ones that basically say (albeit in much more eloquent terms), "Everyone, shut up about the rape victims and how they're feeling! Joe Paterno was really good at winning football games! Can't we just talk about that?" As a rape victim, this was painful to hear, but not unexpected. As soon as I heard of his death (or rather, as soon as the media falsely reported his death … [Read more...]

The subtle signs of relationship abuse

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Are you aware of domestic violence? Of course you know it exists. Turn on Lifetime for five minutes and you'll figure that one out. But do we really understand what domestic violence looks like? When you think of an abusive relationship, you may think of physical violence, bruises, and yelling. But the fact is, in most cases, by the time these obvious symptoms appear, the abuse has probably been going on for while. The roots of domestic violence … [Read more...]

Is it wrong to steal a car?

Is it wrong to steal a car? What if the owner of that car was basically asking for it to be stolen? What if the owner washed it every day so it was as shiny as possible? What if he left it in his drive-way for all the world to see? He didn't make any attempts to cover it up. He didn't hide how great of a car it was. What if he even let people from the neighborhood touch his car, or sit in the passenger seat if they asked? What if he gave people free rides all the time? So how could someone … [Read more...]

Join the chorus: Stitching up the seams

The wonderful woman in charge of the blog, Stitching up the Seams, has agreed to let me link to her story. Her story of sexual abuse has given me courage and let me know that I'm not alone. So, please hear what she has to say, and then take a look at the rest of her blog to learn more about her journey to healing. Her commitment to positivity is inspiring! Part 1 of her story is found here: Sculpture Part 2 is found here: O God, the aftermath If you have a story to share, let me know at … [Read more...]