Why You Should Never Say: “I Just Want to Make You Happy.”

Why You Should Never Say: “I Just Want to Make You Happy.” April 24, 2015

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“I just want to make you happy.”

That’s a common sentence you hear in romantic movies, uttered from one lover to the other. It sounds so good! Finally, there’s another person dedicating themselves to MY happiness. What could be better?

Well, when it comes to marriage, it’s a deadly sentiment. My pastor Ed Young says, “Marriage is not about happiness, it’s about holiness.”

What does that mean? Does that mean that marriage is drudgery? Not at all! Basically, his point is this: marriage should draw both the man and woman closer to God through their actions towards one another. Also, when you love your wife during the toughest of times, you are showing your love to God. Far too often people rest on the emotion of happiness and love, and when that begins to waver over time, so does their marriage.

That’s not right.


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