A Boy’s Santa Wish List


A dad: Who will be involved in my life, who will teach me to be a good man, and who will be proud of me. A mom: Who will always love me and support me. Mentors: Good men who will walk with me into noble manhood through modeling it, teaching it, and affirming it. A [Read More...]

Why You Should Care About the “Boy Crisis”


My concern for the future of boys is personal.  I have two grandsons, both nearing age three.  I’m the pastor of a church with boys of all ages.  These are real boys, boys I care about, who are growing up in a world: Where boys are increasingly falling behind girls in school Where the reading [Read More...]

What Does it Profit Parents to Over-Program their Children….and Lose the Souls of the Kids in the Process?


At the end of a seminar I led on boys a man in his 70’s pulled me aside to ask a few questions.  In doing so he made some interesting observations.  He noted that, in his opinion: Far too many parents today over-program their children often at the expense of building character in them.  Rather [Read More...]

Of Dolphins, Hazings, Boys, and Manhood


The “bullying” story coming out of the Miami Dolphins locker room has dominated the news for the last few weeks.  Though the details still aren’t fully known, it hasn’t stopped the public debate over hazings and bullying.  The responses to Jonathan Martin leaving the team over alleged bullying by his teammate, Richie Incognito, have illustrated [Read More...]

Can’t Girls be Superheroes, too?

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You get the best out of a boy by stimulating his desire for greatness and then telling him he has a long way to go: that he can perhaps achieve something marvelous but he must be humble and work hard for it.                                     –Roy F. Baumeister, Is There Anything Good About Men? I [Read More...]

The One Thing A Man Can Do that A Woman Can’t


If we do not provide a sacred role for our boys as they grow, they are more likely to join a gang, abuse their lovers, abandon their children, subsist in emotional isolation, and become addicted, hyper-materialistic, lonely, and  unhappy.  A boy needs structure and discipline in which to learn who he is.  He needs to [Read More...]

The New “Gender” Math? More Women+Less Men=A Better World?


A few weeks ago, in the early days of the latest Government “crisis” over the shutdown and debt ceiling, Piers Morgan interviewed two women, one of them actress Sharon Stone, about a documentary they were promoting focused on bringing equality to girls and women around the world.  It was an insightful, positive interview about a [Read More...]

When a Son “Hates” His Mom

African-American single-parent family

When our son was little, he and mom had a very close, happy relationship.  Mike was a sweet boy who had no problem giving mom hugs and asking her lots of questions.  He was her little boy. But then Mike moved into the early stages of puberty and the relationship changed…dramatically.  With tears in her [Read More...]