Real Boys Don’t “Fall in Love” with Jesus

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Imagine dropping your son off at football practice and as he’s walking toward the field you yell out: Son, one of my hopes for you this season is that you fall in love with your coach! Or imagine saying to your son: Son, my greatest desire, as your dad/mom, is that you fall in love with me. Creepy!  Ick!  Yuck! Yet that’s precisely what much of Christianity says today to boys (and to girls) about Jesus.  I’m reading an absolutely exceptional book on parenting that starts out … [Read more...]

The Tyranny of Boy-Blindess: The Fog of Gender Wars

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The Fog of War: The unavoidable aspect of war wherein the intelligence gathered is always incomplete to a degree, thereby making any decisions concerning said war a bit... foggy. (Urban Dictionary) Our boys are in crisis: 70% of all D’s and F’s are given to boys 85% of stimulant addressing meds prescribed in the world are prescribed to US boys The reading skills of the average 17 year old boy have declined over the last 20 years Boys are falling behind girls in almost every area … [Read more...]

The Key to Building a High Impact Men’s Ministry

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If you’ve worked in men’s ministry, or if you know anything about men’s ministry in the Church today, you no doubt read the title of this post and thought, “yah, right!”  More smoke.  More mirrors.  No substance. It’s tough slogging in the men’s ministry world in most churches today.  First of all, most churches aren’t doing a great job of reaching men at all let alone getting some of them into a ministry focused on men.  Second, while there are all kinds of great, … [Read more...]

Dad: Coach, Cheerleader, and Companion. (Guest Post by Dave Brown)

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For the next several months a group of writers focused on the issues of boys and men are collaborating through the writing and sharing of blog posts in order to bring greater awareness to the unique challenges boys and men face in the 21st Century.  Twice a month these writers will be posting the same posts on their various media formats to spread the word and to introduce their audiences to the great work of their peers.  Today’s post features Dave Brown, Director and Pastor-at-Large, … [Read more...]

Finally: Unmasking the Ultimate Culprit Behind the Boy Crisis

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I had a fascinating “discussion” with a Facebook friend a few weeks ago.  He has been a supporter of my work on boys and is passionate about the issue as well.  But he took me to task, saying I had “lost it,” I’d “lost focus,” I’d “contaminated my ministry to boys,” all because I also, from time to time, address the issues and challenges that our girls are facing in the 21st Century.  Bottom line, I had sold my soul to the “feminist agenda” and had therefore lost my … [Read more...]

A Grandpa’s Prayer for his Grandsons

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Dear Phoenix (age 3), Judah (almost 3), and Decker (4 weeks), Following Jesus has been an important part of my life since I was your age.  My grandpa was a pastor who prayed for me and modeled a compelling faith for me.  As you grow into men, I pray the following for you: That you will always know, no matter what, that God loves you, believes in you, and is proud of you That you will always know, no matter what, that you are God’s beloved son and that he will never give up on … [Read more...]

A Girl’s Santa Wish List

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A Father: Who will protect me, guide me, encourage me, love me, and show me how to interact with good men. A Mom: Who will listen to my heart, who will support me, love me, and pour good feminine energy into me. Mentors: Women who will walk beside me and ahead of me, modeling for me what a good woman looks like, encouraging me, challenging me, and stretching me along the way. A School: That understands how my girl brain works and shapes my education accordingly, to help me be all that … [Read more...]

A Boy’s Santa Wish List

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A dad: Who will be involved in my life, who will teach me to be a good man, and who will be proud of me. A mom: Who will always love me and support me. Mentors: Good men who will walk with me into noble manhood through modeling it, teaching it, and affirming it. A school: That understands how my boy brain learns and teach me accordingly, to empower me to be the best man that I can be. A church: That understands how my boy brain hears the call to follow Jesus and commits itself to … [Read more...]


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