The Tyranny of Boy-Blindess: The Fog of Gender Wars

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The Fog of War: The unavoidable aspect of war wherein the intelligence gathered is always incomplete to a degree, thereby making any decisions concerning said war a bit... foggy. (Urban Dictionary) Our boys are in crisis:70% of all D’s and F’s are given to boys 85% of stimulant addressing meds prescribed in the world are prescribed to US boys The reading skills of the average 17 year old boy have declined over the last 20 years Boys are falling behind girls in almost every area of ed … [Read more...]

The Decade of the Boy (Guest Post by Michael Gurian)

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For the last several months a group of writers has been focusing on the issues of boys and men by collaborating through the writing and sharing of blog posts in order to bring greater awareness to the unique challenges boys and men face in the 21st Century.  Twice a month these writers are posting the same posts on their various media formats to spread the word and to introduce their audiences to the great work of their peers.  Today is our final post, featuring once again New York Times B … [Read more...]

For the Sake of our Children: Redefining the Legacy of Success

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I wrote this for the Huffington Post last year at the request of Arianna Huffington in reply to an email I sent her responding to a new discussion she is holding on how to redefine success for women.  Make sense?  :)The current definition of success, in which we drive ourselves into the ground, if  not the grave, and in which working to the point of exhaustion and burnout is considered a badge of honor, was created by men. It's a model of success that's not working for women, and it's not wor … [Read more...]

If We Want our Kids to Grow Up…Perhaps We Need to Grow Up!

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I was at my granddaughter’s soccer game last week.  (She’s going to be 5 this month.)  The team is made up of 4-6 year olds. During the game, a grandpa from the opposing team yelled at his grandson: Next time I come, I better see you score a goal!  This on top of other berating comments yelled at his grandson throughout the game.  The kid couldn’t have been more than 6 years old!I know this an ongoing story—a story played out on fields and courts across the country.  Story after story has be … [Read more...]

Tommy Heads to Preschool–And Why That May Not Be a Good Thing!

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Excerpted from my book, Searching for Tom Sawyer: How Parents and Congregations Can Stop the Exodus of Boys from Church. When Tommy turns two, his parents, like many parents, begin thinking about preschool. Preschool is a fairly new phenomenon in our country. In the 1960s, about five hundred thousand kids attended preschool. (When I was a kid, the girl next door, about my age, had to go to nursery school. We all wondered what was wrong with her!) Today, preschool has become almost mandatory … [Read more...]

Is it Time to Finally Say…These are Good Days to be a Girl?

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For over a generation we have been fighting for our girls…creating a world where they can be anything they want to be; a world where they are treated as equals to boys.That hard work has paid off:Girls have now passed boys in almost every level of education More girls than boys take college prep classes in school More girls than boys take the SAT Girls get better grades than boys and graduate with high GPA’s More girls than boys are attending and graduating from col … [Read more...]

Putting the “Boy” Back Into Boyhood

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When I was a boy back in the 1960’s, the girl next door “had” to go to nursery school.  While we were out running around, playing, and having a good time, we occasionally wondered what was wrong with her.  It had to be pretty bad for her to have to go to school before kindergarten!  We felt sorry for her!Today, so many kids go to pre-school that if you don’t, your friends wonder what’s wrong with you.  Part of the reason for the rise and “imperative” of pre-school is that US students are incr … [Read more...]

Finally: Unmasking the Ultimate Culprit Behind the Boy Crisis

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I had a fascinating “discussion” with a Facebook friend a few weeks ago.  He has been a supporter of my work on boys and is passionate about the issue as well.  But he took me to task, saying I had “lost it,” I’d “lost focus,” I’d “contaminated my ministry to boys,” all because I also, from time to time, address the issues and challenges that our girls are facing in the 21st Century.  Bottom line, I had sold my soul to the “feminist agenda” and had therefore lost my ability to fight for our boys. … [Read more...]


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