Dear Clover (age 4 ½),From the moment you were born (even before then) I have prayed God’s deepest blessing on your life.As you grow into a woman, I pray the following for you:That you will always know, no matter what, that God loves you and will always walk through life with you That you will always know, no matter what, that you are God’s beloved daughter and that he will never give up on you That you will always lean into the God who leans into you That you will hear the inv … [Read more...]
It’s tough being a boy these days.Just ask 6-year-old Hunter Yelton who was suspended from school for sexual harassment; i.e., he kissed a girl on her hand.Just ask 10-year-old Johnny Jones who was suspended from school and threatened with expulsion for “firearms related issues;” i.e., he pretended he was shooting a bow and arrow.Just ask 8-year-old Jordan Bennett who was suspended from school for using his finger to simulate a gun while playing cops and robbers with a friend … [Read more...]
What Does it Profit Parents to Over-Program their Children….and Lose the Souls of the Kids in the Process?
At the end of a seminar I led on boys a man in his 70’s pulled me aside to ask a few questions. In doing so he made some interesting observations. He noted that, in his opinion:Far too many parents today over-program their children often at the expense of building character in them. Rather than starting with the question: What kind of person do I want my child to be?, parents today seem to be asking, What kinds of activities does my child need to participate in in order to keep up with th … [Read more...]
Faster than a speeding bullet… More powerful than a turbo jet engine… Able to leap tall buildings in a single bound… Look, up in the sky…it’s a bird…it’s a plane… It’s a boy! In my last post I suggested that our attempts to get rid of boy stereotypes has left our boys without any idea of what it means to be a boy. We’ve robbed them (and us) of any vision of boyhood and haven’t replaced it with anything of substance.I also suggested that just because something’s a stereotype doesn’t mean … [Read more...]
These are tough days to be a boy!Boys are falling behind girls in virtually every area of education from pre-school to college The average reading skills of a 17 year old boy have declined in the last 20 years 17-18 of the top 20 growing professions favor the verbal and relational skills of women over men Boys are growing up in a world without a compelling vision for noble manhoodThese are tough days to be the Church:Sexual scandals in the Catholic Church Angry, fringe … [Read more...]
During a recent men’s retreat a couple of us men we’re talking about boys and specifically the issue of boys’ and girls’ “space.” The first comment came from a dad whose wife insists that whatever he buys for his 2 year old son he needs to buy for his 4 year old daughter. She doesn’t want them treated any differently. If he buys his son a toy gun, then he should buy one for his 4 year old daughter. If he buys him a GI Joe action figure, then he should buy one for his 4 year old daughter. (In … [Read more...]
Confession: I’m a middle age white guy. I don’t know a Twerk from Tweak. I didn’t watch Miley Cyrus’ performance on the Video Music Awards nor did I go to youtube to see what all the commotion was about (nor did I want to). (My big entertainment excitement comes when Barry Manilow appears live at the White House 4th of July special on PBS!) But all the buzz about Miley’s Twerk serves as a provocative metaphor for the continued sexualization of our daughters and the high cost to them…and to ou … [Read more...]