Why You Should Care About the “Boy Crisis”

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My concern for the future of boys is personal.  I have two grandsons, both nearing age three.  I’m the pastor of a church with boys of all ages.  These are real boys, boys I care about, who are growing up in a world:Where boys are increasingly falling behind girls in school Where the reading skills of teenage boys have been in decline for 20 years Where fewer males are attending and graduating from college Where increasing numbers of boys are being raised without positive male energy b … [Read more...]

Can’t Girls be Superheroes, too?

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You get the best out of a boy by stimulating his desire for greatness and then telling him he has a long way to go: that he can perhaps achieve something marvelous but he must be humble and work hard for it.                                    --Roy F. Baumeister, Is There Anything Good About Men?I receive some occasional pushback on the connection between boys and heroes, and my emphasis on calling boys into heroic manhood. The pushback goes something like this:            Why does b … [Read more...]

The Troubling “De-Stereotyping” of Boys

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Prince Jake was kind and caring. Princess Rose was brave and strong. --from A Fairy Tale, by Lego Books What makes a boy a boy?Seems no one really knows anymore.  We’ve spent so much time as of late trying to free boys of “boy stereotypes” that we no longer really know what “boy” means.  In fact, many in our culture have spent so much energy criticizing “stereotypical” boy behavior that boys who may fit that stereotype are made to feel bad about themselves.For example, some boy experts … [Read more...]

Could the Church be the Best Hope for Our Boys?

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These are tough days to be a boy!Boys are falling behind girls in virtually every area of education from pre-school to college The average reading skills of a 17 year old boy have declined in the last 20 years 17-18 of the top 20 growing professions favor the verbal and relational skills of women over men Boys are growing up in a world without a compelling vision for noble manhoodThese are tough days to be the Church:Sexual scandals in the Catholic Church Angry, fringe … [Read more...]

The Tyranny of Sameness–Robbing Boys of their Boy-ness

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For all of the great advances women, in particular, have experienced thanks to the Women’s Movement, one of the consequences, intended or unintended, is the confusion between “equal” and “sameness,” or the misunderstanding of differentness. Understandably, because girls and women were so far behind in the 60’s and 70’s, it was important to stress that girls and women were not only equal to boys and men, but that they could also do anything boys and men can do. Equal, however, came to mean “the sa … [Read more...]


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