Real Boys Don’t “Fall in Love” with Jesus

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Imagine dropping your son off at football practice and as he’s walking toward the field you yell out: Son, one of my hopes for you this season is that you fall in love with your coach!Or imagine saying to your son: Son, my greatest desire, as your dad/mom, is that you fall in love with me.Creepy!  Ick!  Yuck!Yet that’s precisely what much of Christianity says today to boys (and to girls) about Jesus.  I’m reading an absolutely exceptional book on parenting that starts out with this fl … [Read more...]

The Key to Building a High Impact Men’s Ministry

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If you’ve worked in men’s ministry, or if you know anything about men’s ministry in the Church today, you no doubt read the title of this post and thought, “yah, right!”  More smoke.  More mirrors.  No substance.It’s tough slogging in the men’s ministry world in most churches today.  First of all, most churches aren’t doing a great job of reaching men at all let alone getting some of them into a ministry focused on men.  Second, while there are all kinds of great, exceptional programs and cur … [Read more...]

Dad: Coach, Cheerleader, and Companion. (Guest Post by Dave Brown)

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For the next several months a group of writers focused on the issues of boys and men are collaborating through the writing and sharing of blog posts in order to bring greater awareness to the unique challenges boys and men face in the 21st Century.  Twice a month these writers will be posting the same posts on their various media formats to spread the word and to introduce their audiences to the great work of their peers.  Today’s post features Dave Brown, Director and Pastor-at-Large, Was … [Read more...]

Use Your !@%&* Words?

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When I was in 7th grade, my friend Gary and I were walking along a busy street in St. Louis Park, Minnesota.  Gary had a squirt gun, which he hid under his arm as he squirted cars passing by.  (Sounds like boy behavior, doesn’t it?)  The cars were going so fast and the gun was so cheap that maybe a couple of drops landed on an occasional car. Unfortunately, a couple of drops landed on a sports car driven by a man in his late 20’s or early 30’s.  He hit the brakes, jumped out of his car and began … [Read more...]

A Grandpa’s Prayer for his Grandsons

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Dear Phoenix (age 3), Judah (almost 3), and Decker (4 weeks),Following Jesus has been an important part of my life since I was your age.  My grandpa was a pastor who prayed for me and modeled a compelling faith for me. As you grow into men, I pray the following for you:That you will always know, no matter what, that God loves you, believes in you, and is proud of you That you will always know, no matter what, that you are God’s beloved son and that he will never give up on you … [Read more...]

Why Should the Church Care About Reaching Men?

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I was interviewed the other day by a newspaper reporter on the topic of men and the Church.  She mentioned the statistics about how men are leaving the Church or not attending church in the first place and then asked, “Why does it matter? Why should the Church care about reaching men?”  The essence of the question was: If men don’t want to go to church, so what?  It wasn’t asked negatively.  The reporter followed up with great questions.  But the initial question had that undertone of why should … [Read more...]

Can’t Girls be Superheroes, too?

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You get the best out of a boy by stimulating his desire for greatness and then telling him he has a long way to go: that he can perhaps achieve something marvelous but he must be humble and work hard for it.                                    --Roy F. Baumeister, Is There Anything Good About Men?I receive some occasional pushback on the connection between boys and heroes, and my emphasis on calling boys into heroic manhood. The pushback goes something like this:            Why does b … [Read more...]

“Re-Stereotyping” Boys, Part 3: The Divine Stereotype

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Then God said, “Let us make humankind in our image, according to our likeness…”  So God created humankind in his image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.  (Genesis 1:26-27) (Jesus) is the image of the invisible God…(Colossians 1:15) (Jesus) is the reflection of God’s glory and the exact imprint of God’s very being…(Hebrews 1:3) Stereotype is the new four-letter word in our culture when it comes to gender.  Understandably, we don’t want to impose anything on … [Read more...]


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