The Steroid Church


Why do men hate going to church? My friend, David Murrow has written a best-selling book on the subject. Filled with all kinds of great insights, David points out many of the ways in which the Church, over the years, has increasingly conformed itself to values and programs that speak better to women. Or, to [Read More...]

A Dad’s Playbook for Forging Faith in his Kids–Part 3: Gentlemen–This is Your Brain on Testosterone


(Many great books have been written recently about how to be more intentional in forging faith in the home. Most so far have been written by female authors and while inclusive, tend to speak better to moms and women. Over the next several weeks I want to speak to dads in male language about their [Read More...]

Mentoring Boys – The Challenge of Improving Communication Skills (Guest Blog with Denny Coates)


For the next several months a group of writers focused on the issues of boys and men are collaborating through the writing and sharing of blog posts in order to bring greater awareness to the unique challenges boys and men face in the 21st Century.  Twice a month these writers will be posting the same [Read More...]

When a Son “Hates” His Mom

African-American single-parent family

When our son was little, he and mom had a very close, happy relationship.  Mike was a sweet boy who had no problem giving mom hugs and asking her lots of questions.  He was her little boy. But then Mike moved into the early stages of puberty and the relationship changed…dramatically.  With tears in her [Read More...]

Could the Church be the Best Hope for Our Boys?


These are tough days to be a boy! Boys are falling behind girls in virtually every area of education from pre-school to college The average reading skills of a 17 year old boy have declined in the last 20 years 17-18 of the top 20 growing professions favor the verbal and relational skills of women [Read More...]

Protecting the Self-Esteem of Boys


This is a post written by my two good friends, Michael Gurian and Gregg Jantz, adapted from their soon to be released, must-read book, RAISING BOYS BY DESIGN, by Gregory Jantz, Michael Gurian, and Anne McMurray (Waterbrook, September, 17, 2013) Everywhere we turn, people are wondering how to protect a child’s self-esteem. In few areas today [Read More...]

The Short-Sighted Battle to Tame Boys


Is (Aslan)—quite safe? “Safe?” said Mr. Beaver; “don’t you hear what Mrs. Beaver tells you? Who said anything about safe? ‘Course he isn’t safe. But he’s good. He’s the King, I tell you.” During a men’s retreat a few weeks ago one of the older men complained: All women want to do is tame men! [Read More...]