When a Son “Hates” His Mom

African-American single-parent family

When our son was little, he and mom had a very close, happy relationship.  Mike was a sweet boy who had no problem giving mom hugs and asking her lots of questions.  He was her little boy. But then Mike moved into the early stages of puberty and the relationship changed…dramatically.  With tears in her [Read More...]

“Re-Stereotyping” Boys, Part 3: The Divine Stereotype


Then God said, “Let us make humankind in our image, according to our likeness…”  So God created humankind in his image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.  (Genesis 1:26-27) (Jesus) is the image of the invisible God…(Colossians 1:15) (Jesus) is the reflection of God’s glory and the [Read More...]

“Re-Stereotyping” Boys, Part 2: Character


As I mentioned in my last two posts, in our well-intentioned desire to rescue our boys (and girls) from boy stereotypes, we have unintentionally robbed boys of any vision for what it means to be a boy.  And with no vision for boyhood, boys have no sense of what it means to be a man. [Read More...]

The Troubling “De-Stereotyping” of Boys


Prince Jake was kind and caring. Princess Rose was brave and strong. –from A Fairy Tale, by Lego Books What makes a boy a boy? Seems no one really knows anymore.  We’ve spent so much time as of late trying to free boys of “boy stereotypes” that we no longer really know what “boy” means.  [Read More...]

The Tyranny of Sameness–Robbing Boys of their Boy-ness


For all of the great advances women, in particular, have experienced thanks to the Women’s Movement, one of the consequences, intended or unintended, is the confusion between “equal” and “sameness,” or the misunderstanding of differentness. Understandably, because girls and women were so far behind in the 60’s and 70’s, it was important to stress that [Read More...]

The High Cost of Bored Boys


The central problem of every society is to define appropriate roles for its men. –Anthropologist Margaret Mead Over the last several months we have witnessed far too many stories about “bad” boys—boys setting off a bomb at the Boston marathon; a boy taking up a weapon to shoot his fellow students; to name a few.  [Read More...]