God is faithful, but we’re not marrying God.

Every day, I bless a merciful God that there was no internet to speak of when I was younger. This means there are no insanely humiliating photos of me in a crop top and acid wash harem pants. It also means that I never published an article like this one in Catholic Exchange:  Marriage Is Work. In this piece, which I absolutely would have written as a newlywed, the earnest, not-yet-married Emma Smith hears her secular coworkers lamenting the way their ex-husbands had cheated on … [Read more...]

Why give birth? Why love?

Wow.  Many, many thanks to Garard Nadal for posting this incredibly pro-life short film from Unilever: I do not know what Unilever's Project Sunlight is about, but man, the clip is lovely, and will do much good. A great companion, as a matter of fact, to this comic illustrating a quote from C.S. Lewis, who died fifty years ago today.  (Thanks to Jason Bach for sharing the comic on Facebook!) Hope doesn't mean you know nothing will go wrong.  As Lewis says: The alternative to … [Read more...]

An unthinkable story of love

Devin Rose has written a harrowing account of their adoption story.  It begins, Several years ago we adopted three children. We are no longer their parents. This is the story of what happened. Everyone should read this.  Everyone.  It is so important.  It's not only about adoption, it's about making decisions in love.  God bless Devin and Katie and all of the children they love and care for.  I am so grateful to them for having the courage to express these dreadful truths so clearly. … [Read more...]

Because my husband said I should . . .

Here is an excerpt from the chapter I'm contributing to a book about marriage: Children give our bodies purpose.  I always have to laugh when people complain, “The Church treats women like baby-making machines!”  The truth is, the secular world is the one that treats women that way—and expends tremendous amounts of money and effort in trying to find the “off” button, often putting women through years of physical and psychological contortions with one kind of contraception after … [Read more...]

Catholic Digest: Pro-life Even at the End of Life

Oops, just realized I have a second article in the latest edition of Catholic Digest.  Do get your hands on this one if you can!  The strength and clarity of the people I interviewed is just astonishing. I wish I had had enough space to include all of what they had to say about making end-of-life decisions for the people they love. I wrote about the experience of tackling this harrowing subject in a post called "Bright Wings."  I'm just going to reprint it here (it ran first in the … [Read more...]

Communication keeps a marriage strong.

Him:  I love you. Me:  I love you, too.  But if you get me pregnant, I'll stab you in the eye. Him:  I have two. … [Read more...]

Valentine’s Day Massacre

(photo source) This year, I revealed to my husband that I actually kind of like Valentine's Day.  This is despite all the times I told him that I hated it, it's lame and stupid, and a made-up, over-commercialized saccharine-fest invented by Hallmark and Big Floral.   For fourteen years, the poor man has been wondering why, every February 14, I would say I wasn't mad at him, while I was clearly mad at him. I was mad, you see, because everyone else was getting flowers and riding in … [Read more...]

No petty virtues

Some time ago, an online discussion of NFP took an interesting turn.  I remember it especially because I got off a pretty good zinger (and that's what we Catholic bloggers do to advance the kingdom of God:  we zing people). The Other Guy's argument went like this:  Sure, sure, the Church permits NFP to space out pregnancies in serious circumstances.  Because we are a stiff-necked people, she even turns her head while we stretch the definition of "serious."  But really, if we truly want … [Read more...]

Thought experiment

Belief in God is for the weak, who are just looking for comfort and an escape from reality. Some days, yeah.  Probably.  But also: You beg God for strength often enough, and eventually you will see that you have none yourself.  None.  What you are without God is brittle and empty and cold, like dead coral.  You can't even make your own heart beat. You pray for the courage to forgive someone, and you soon notice that you yourself live next to the abyss.  You play next to it -- you … [Read more...]

“You have nothing else but God.”

Today's post was written by "Pansy" for her blog, Pansy and Peony -- and she graciously allowed me to re-post it here today.  Pansy is a young and lovely mother of seven, who discovered a year ago that her husband was having an affair.  She wrote to readers for prayers, and has this grateful update. I was going to edit it for length, but it's a fairly quick read, and I think you will appreciate her candor and her expressive language.  I found this essay moving and, frankly, fascinating. … [Read more...]