God is faithful, but we’re not marrying God.

Every day, I bless a merciful God that there was no internet to speak of when I was younger. This means there are no insanely humiliating photos of me in a crop top and acid wash harem pants. It also means that I never published an article like this one in Catholic Exchange:  Marriage Is Work. In this piece, which I absolutely would have written as a newlywed, the earnest, not-yet-married Emma Smith hears her secular coworkers lamenting the way their ex-husbands had cheated on … [Read more...]

Try this one weird trick for ending the war on women

You know what would cut through 99% of this crap, where we find ourselves arguing about whether or not saying, "Yes, I want to have sex with you" counts as sufficient consent, and whether or not "bystander intervention training" is sexist, and who's waging a war on whom, and who's winning?  Try following this simple rule: If you are not married, assume there is never consent; and if you are married, treat your spouse like a person, not a thing. I know I know I know. I know all the things, … [Read more...]

Because my husband said I should . . .

Here is an excerpt from the chapter I'm contributing to a book about marriage: Children give our bodies purpose.  I always have to laugh when people complain, “The Church treats women like baby-making machines!”  The truth is, the secular world is the one that treats women that way—and expends tremendous amounts of money and effort in trying to find the “off” button, often putting women through years of physical and psychological contortions with one kind of contraception after … [Read more...]

At the Register: If You’re Happy and You’re Married, Let It Show

Oopsie, that title was just a placeholder.   Pushed "publish" before I thought of something better.  Oh well, it'll do. … [Read more...]

Time for Married Priests?

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 NBC did a story on married priests, and included comments by Mark Shea.  Looks like they actually did some research, and tried to present a balanced picture.  They tried to answer the question:  what would happen if the Catholic Church (by which they mean the Western rite -- and no, I never get it straight if I'm supposed to say "Latin" or "Roman" or "Western" or what.  You know who I mean) dropped the celibacy requirement for priests?  Wouldn't that solve the vocations crisis?   I … [Read more...]

Lots of siblings = low divorce rate?

Interesting little tidbit on CatholicCulture.org: Sociologists from Ohio State University have found that children from large families have markedly lower divorce rates. The equation that emerged after a 40-year study, involving a sample of 57,000 American adults, was simple: The more siblings you had as a child, the less likely you were to be divorced as an adult. The researchers don’t offer an explanation for this phenomenon—in fact they seem to be stumped—but they know … [Read more...]

At the Register: Why Marriages Explode

How is a marriage like a rotting corpse?  Find out in today's actually kind of edifying Register post. … [Read more...]

So tell me: Marriage Prep

All this talk about young married couples has sent me on a trip down memory lane, back to the old days when my husband was naught but a boyish husband-to-be, and I was a blushing maiden of 22.  And by "maiden," I mean I was 22.  Ah, yoot! We did go to marriage preparation classes.  They were held by another couple in their comfortable home.  It was a little too comfortable, as I recall:  they installed me next to the fire in a rocking chair, and I damn near fell asleep every night as … [Read more...]

Why doesn’t the Church just make a list?

image source When Catholics talk about NFP, someone always asks rather plaintively why the Church doesn't just clear up all the confusion about what does and does not constitute a legitimate reason to avoid a pregnancy.  Why not just make a list:  on the right, good reasons for postponing a pregnancy; on the left, bad reasons? Obviously we should still pray and try to discern God's will for us -- but why does it have to be so vague?  Why doesn't the Church just give us a break and spell … [Read more...]

Communication keeps a marriage strong.

Him:  I love you. Me:  I love you, too.  But if you get me pregnant, I'll stab you in the eye. Him:  I have two. … [Read more...]