And that’s exactly why I wrote my book.

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Okay, so I've been trying not to grouse publicly about it every time someone says boo to me. This is not that! I came across a review that thought the first two third of my book ("NFP and your spiritual life" and "NFP and the rest of the world") were good, but he really didn't like the third part ("NFP in the trenches").  He's an NFP teacher, and thinks that maybe we need to talk about intimate things, but only in an intimate setting:  literally, person to person. His review got a … [Read more...]

Try this one weird trick for ending the war on women

You know what would cut through 99% of this crap, where we find ourselves arguing about whether or not saying, "Yes, I want to have sex with you" counts as sufficient consent, and whether or not "bystander intervention training" is sexist, and who's waging a war on whom, and who's winning?  Try following this simple rule: If you are not married, assume there is never consent; and if you are married, treat your spouse like a person, not a thing. I know I know I know. I know all the things, … [Read more...]

Progesterone cream (prescription and OTC) improved my Creighton NFP charting of cycles and now NFP is tolerable instead of intolerable

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This is my story of how progesterone cream made NFP tolerable, instead of intolerable. The following post is purely in the interest of public service, and is not especially entertaining, amusing, or edifying (hence the Google-friendly title).  I am not offering medical advice! I am just telling my story, in hopes that it will encourage other women to talk to their doctors, too.  I wish I had done it a lot sooner, because now my cycles became intelligible, and NFP became endurable. This … [Read more...]

Sex is about lovers, not about sex

People need to hear this more.  Will Duquette (are you reading Will Duquette?  You should be!) says It is true that the first stages of Eros are like shooting the rapids on a river: exciting and scary, and great fun, especially if you’re an adrenalin junky. But mature Eros is that like that same river, downstream: wide and deep, flowing strongly, deeply peaceful but in no way static or stagnant. Oh, yes: and sometimes there’s sex involved, and it gets better over time, especially when … [Read more...]

Ex-Gay? Is That Even a Thing? An Interview with Steve Gershom (part two)

[This is the second part of my interview with Steve Gershom. I posted the first half yesterday. Gershom has also written a four-part series about orientation change on his own blog, SteveGershom.com.] Have you had any bad experiences with Christian organizations who try to bully or shame you into becoming heterosexual? I know those things exist, but I've never seen them. Any organization I've come up against, there's always been some good and some bad. You spoke about "strands of … [Read more...]

Ex-Gay? Is That Even a Thing? An Interview with Steve Gershom (part one)

On June 19, the ex-gay ministry Exodus International issued an apology for the harm it has done to LGBT people. The organization is now shutting down.Many secular organizations who embrace homosexuality as healthy are overjoyed to see Exodus go; but many Christian organizations -- even those who see homosexual attraction as disordered -- are also glad. Aaron Taylor of First Things, for instance, says that Exodus' views and methods show that their idea of heterosexuality is just as disordered as … [Read more...]

Theology of the Body reading recommendations?

A reader writes:  I've got a Catholic friend who is sorely in need of some good reading materials on the main concepts in Theology of the Body. She buys into very secular views of contraception, abortion, marriage, and sex in general, and has admitted a total lack of education regarding the Catholic teaching on the subjects, as well as a (reluctant) interest in obtaining said education. I'm looking for something that's intelligent, readable, down to earth, doesn't assume that you already … [Read more...]

So tell me: Marriage Prep

All this talk about young married couples has sent me on a trip down memory lane, back to the old days when my husband was naught but a boyish husband-to-be, and I was a blushing maiden of 22.  And by "maiden," I mean I was 22.  Ah, yoot! We did go to marriage preparation classes.  They were held by another couple in their comfortable home.  It was a little too comfortable, as I recall:  they installed me next to the fire in a rocking chair, and I damn near fell asleep every night as … [Read more...]

Why doesn’t the Church just make a list?

image source When Catholics talk about NFP, someone always asks rather plaintively why the Church doesn't just clear up all the confusion about what does and does not constitute a legitimate reason to avoid a pregnancy.  Why not just make a list:  on the right, good reasons for postponing a pregnancy; on the left, bad reasons? Obviously we should still pray and try to discern God's will for us -- but why does it have to be so vague?  Why doesn't the Church just give us a break and spell … [Read more...]

Communication keeps a marriage strong.

Him:  I love you. Me:  I love you, too.  But if you get me pregnant, I'll stab you in the eye. Him:  I have two. … [Read more...]