At the Register: Worry, and Other Unappealing Temptations

Snake-eats-itself

When we are tempted to fall into chronic worry, free-falling anxiety, brooding, endless guilt, and despair, we are falling for a lie. We are turning our hearts over to a false lover, an abuser who wants to control us and make us whimper, make us pay. There are things to worry about. There are reasons to fear, reasons to dread. These things are true, and there’s no point in telling myself, “There is nothing to be upset about.”  There is plenty to be upset about, and there always will … [Read more...]

A beautiful, courageous, somewhat nervous-making idea: naming your victims

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Darren Cools (husband of Anna Cools, the proprietor of Roots Soap Co.) has founded Her Name, a website built to honor women whose dignity was wounded through pornography. It's a simple, anonymous project: If you want to add the name of a girl you have victimized by lust, please click the Add a Name button and enter her first name. If you remember her face but not her name, give her one. The form is completely anonymous and non-trackable. Use first names only. Pornography is a grave affront … [Read more...]

God is faithful, but we’re not marrying God.

Every day, I bless a merciful God that there was no internet to speak of when I was younger. This means there are no insanely humiliating photos of me in a crop top and acid wash harem pants. It also means that I never published an article like this one in Catholic Exchange:  Marriage Is Work. In this piece, which I absolutely would have written as a newlywed, the earnest, not-yet-married Emma Smith hears her secular coworkers lamenting the way their ex-husbands had cheated on … [Read more...]

At the Register: Speaking of Empty Promises

I don't trust you to save me from sin if you can't even bring yourself to say "sin." … [Read more...]

At the Register: Embarrassment vs. Shame

While I was writing today's post, I whined on Facebook: Can't tell if I'm struggling because I have hold of an important idea that is worth working through, or because I'm tired and stupid and making something out of nothing. to which the wise and paternal Mark Shea responded:  Catholics are a both/and people. Anyway, here it is, the piece I might as well have entitled: PLEASE MISUNDERSTAND ME!  Okay, end of preemtive whine.   … [Read more...]

At the Register: Evil Isn’t Private (And Neither Is Good)

Like it or not, we are all part of that family -- as we see in the story of a drug addict who infected dozens of patients in the hospital where he worked, and the young judge who thought hard about his sentence. … [Read more...]

Bless the Lord, O my sole

Guess what?  I'm fat.  About seven permanent pounds for each kid.  I usually manage to lose some between pregnancies, but after baby #8 was born, I just kept gaining. My husband thinks I'm beautiful, but I don't.  I hate wearing special sizes with labels like "Curvy Coordinates!"  "Luscious Lady Plus!"  "Gee, Your Ass Looks Enormous!"  Being fat feels bad, but knowing I'm still gaining feels horrible. The real misery is in feeling like I had no control. Many and many a time I've … [Read more...]


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