Not everything is fixable (God have mercy on us all)

A caller once asked radio host Dr. Laura for advice about an impossible situation. I forget the details -- something about lots of children and lots of fathers, various addictions, various betrayals, and a family tree that was twisted and ingrown and diseased. Dr. Laura could not offer much hope to the caller, other than to point out that her story shows why it's so important not to have kids out of wedlock."But--" the caller protested.  "What if I can get my boyfriend to go to therapy?" Dr. … [Read more...]

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I just figured out why it was called “The Synod on the Family.”

 I just figured out the entire Synod. Or at least, I figured out something about it! Maybe everyone else already knows this, and I'm just slow, but it kind of blew my mind.My husband and I were talking about people in really rotten marital situations -- say, a Catholic man in a valid marriage to a woman who reacted badly to the trials of life, and turned into a horrible person. When she began to abuse the kids, they got a civil divorce, and he found someone else, and they're really i … [Read more...]

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My Aleteia piece on the suffering faithful…

  is spotlighted today:The Church is full of the obedient wounded. The flock who never strayed have troubles of their own, and some of these troubles come directly from original sin, the effects of which no doctrinal development, pastoral compassion, or rigorously trained professional can completely undo. Poor family, they need to hear that their sorrows are known to God and to the Church. That the cross still hangs there above the altar because it must be faced, sooner or … [Read more...]

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Married to an angry man: An open letter to the Synod Fathers (GUEST POST)

This is a guest post written by the friend of a friend. The writer goes by Monica More, which is a pseudonym. I have bolded some passages for emphasis. Priests, especially, please take heed.  Dear Synod Fathers, Thank you for your prayerful consideration of how the Church can offer better pastoral care to a world in which so many families are broken, and in which so many have lost sight of the true nature of marriage. I wish to offer my voice as a reminder … [Read more...]

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Everybody knows the Church will change. (Everybody is wrong.)

 Many Catholics believe the Synod on the Family will drive home the final nail in the coffin of orthodoxy. They believe that, when the Synod is over, from that coffin will emerge some hideous new zombie Church, which progressive Pope Francis will envelop in one of his famous Marxist hugs. Together, Frankie and Zombie will personally cater all the gay weddings they can find, and couples who have three or more annulments under their belts can claim a discount on renting the Sistine Cha … [Read more...]

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Shush. Your mother is trying to listen.

 If you came in in the middle of the process, you'd think I was being totally unfair. You'd see me letting one kid stand there and have center stage, while everyone else has to just stand around and listen to half-truths, exaggerations, and self-pity. You'd think I was a fool for listening gravely and seriously to what is obviously a biased, self-serving version of what happened.Or maybe you'd see me letting one kid stand there and having center stage, while everyone else has to … [Read more...]

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No earthquake here. At the Synod, the Church teaches us how to dress for the feast.

Yesterday's second reading at Mass had two major ideas:(1) God wants everyone. (2) Not everyone wants God.In this parable, the king has invited all the expected, honored guests to his son's wedding, but they not only refused his invitation, but abused and killed the messengers who invited them.This  is old news -- as old as Adam and Eve, as old as the War in Heaven -- and would not even be a story at all if the king didn't then decide to do something scandalous and unexpected:  h … [Read more...]

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