Zero Foolproof Gift Ideas for the Man You Claim to Love; or, Simply Having a Wonderful Chickentime

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Is it my imagination, or is the Catholic internet just bristling with lists of gift ideas for men this year? Are there suggestion lists like this for women's gifts?  Is it my silly little lady imagination going all kookie again, or is it actually fairly easy to buy presents for women?  Of course it's  possible to go astray, but most women will tell you exactly what they want, if you ask them.  Then what you do is you go out and buy or make or get or do that, and then either add an unexpected upg … [Read more...]

How I learned to stop worrying about wifely obedience and love my husband

by Henry William Pickersgill, 1825. This picture cracks me up because you can tell they love each other, but look at those crazy exotic costumes!  One of them is clearly humoring the other.

Ephesians 5:22!  Ephesians 5:22! Let's all panic about Ephesians 5:22!Nah. I'm not afraid of it anymore. But it's not as big of a deal as I thought it was, either.I'm not going to tell you what a Catholic marriage ought to look like. I'm just going to tell you what our marriage looks like, now that I've stopped trying to make it The Catholic Marriage and started letting it be Our Catholic Marriage. When I was first married, I was dying to leap feet first into the perfect … [Read more...]

Try this one weird trick for ending the war on women

You know what would cut through 99% of this crap, where we find ourselves arguing about whether or not saying, "Yes, I want to have sex with you" counts as sufficient consent, and whether or not "bystander intervention training" is sexist, and who's waging a war on whom, and who's winning?  Try following this simple rule: If you are not married, assume there is never consent; and if you are married, treat your spouse like a person, not a thing. I know I know I know. I know all the things, … [Read more...]

Yet another reason the all male priesthood makes sense

Chatting on Facebook about how nice it would be to hear more from men about NFP -- and how tricky it was for me to try to address men, as someone who is not their wife or mother.   We had the following exchange: Barbara Cobb: "In general men are more willing to accept direction from other men rather than women, including or especially their wives. I think that's why God in His wisdom set up an all-male priesthood."Me:  "Wow, I never thought of that. How many men would go to a woman priest f … [Read more...]

Two great questions from men about NFP

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I had a great interview with the witty and insightful Scott Eric Alt of Logos & Muse yesterday, and he incorporated parts of our conversation into his review, Seven Reasons to Read Simcha Fisher’s Book on NFP.  This question came up: Why should we trust this mother of nine to make the case for NFP? That’s a fecun­dity beyond all rea­son! Either she’s not using NFP at all (oh the deceit!) or it does not really work. Nancy Pelosi infa­mously said that you call NFP-users “mama” and “dada,” and … [Read more...]

Excellent article on women priests

Help, help, I'm being oppressed because I'm a woman!

Women Priests -- No Chance by the redoubtable Joanna Bogle.  This came out in 1997, after John Paul II reaffirmed the Church's teaching that it ain't gonna (can't) happen, ever. Despite the abrupt title, this article goes beyond pointing to the long, unbroken tradition of the male priesthood, and draws out (or at least introduces us to) some of the reasons why Christ wanted men to do this particular work on earth.Just a solid, accessible read, something to keep on hand if someone asks you … [Read more...]

At the Register: The Allure of Either/Or

I wrote today's post in forty-second increments all morning long.  If it makes any sense, it'll be a miracle.  But hey, the title rhymes!  Awesome! … [Read more...]


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