When our younger son went off to college, my husband and I — unsure of how we would deal with the empty nest — signed up for a six week course at a local parish. I honestly don’t remember much about it except for this: in the second week, the class participants spent some time with the Myers Briggs Type Indicators and my husband finally had the proof he needed to believe what I had been telling him for years: he is a profoundly extroverted person, and I am — as even the instructor, with raised eyebrows averred, a “true” introvert (INFJ).
After all of our years together, I finally understood my husband’s need to be out and about doing, meeting, talking, socializing and he finally understood why it was all so exhausting to me. I no longer ask him why he feels the need to accept any invitation that comes his way, and he no longer says “but we just got here, what do you mean, you’re fried?”
So, I really like this piece on 10 myths about introverts:
Unfortunately, according to this book, only about 25% of people are Introverts. There are even fewer that are as extreme as I am. This leads to a lot of misunderstandings, since society doesn’t have very much experience with my people. (I love being able to say that.)
So here are a few common misconceptions about Introverts (not taken directly from the book, but based on my own life experience):
Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.
Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.
Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.
Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.
Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.
You can read the rest, here.
Have you ever done a Myers Briggs profile?
I’ve done this hiding in the bathroom to recharge thing. Even when I’m hosting the party!
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