Culture Wars: It’s all fun and games until someone gets hurt

From the mind of Deacon Greg, whose comments are always closed.

So, yesterday was a most interesting day. Having worked until the wee small hours of Tuesday morning, I decided to sleep in a bit and then do an hour on my bike before getting down to serious work. As I biked, I checked email and learned that there was a twitterconflagration in effect, concerning this piece at First Things.As our culture wars progress, we're apparently supposed to stake out purist territory, declare "Here I stand, I can do no other" and then battle relentlessly; since we're … [Read more...]

Is a Hopeful Day Dawning for Some Divorced Catholics?

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That's the question I am asking over at the Guardian, today. Recalling the long ago wedding of friends who chose Mark 10:2-9 for the Gospel reading of their Nuptial Mass, I write:Even in Jesus’ day, divorce was a theological challenge.For the bride and groom the reading was a pledge of determination; one of them was still reeling from the recent divorce of parents married for over 20 years, and the subsequent remarriage of the mother.The divorce created anxiety before the wedding: w … [Read more...]

Divorce-Remarriage: Francis May Walk Us Thru Door B16 Cracked Open – UPDATED

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Pretty recently I wondered whether ideas to reform our annulment process would be seen by people as "amnesty" or necessary mercy:An attempt to streamline the annulment process is not an idea that will please everyone. Those who. . .have jumped through the hoops and endured the long and difficult bureaucratic processes may justifiably wonder about fairness. They may feel like the elder brother in the parable of the prodigal son, and they will need to be reminded–with great love–that “ev … [Read more...]

When We Truly Love, We Model God to Each Other – UPDATED

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A while back, I had the distinct pleasure of interviewing Mother Dolores Hart, OSB about her book, and she talked of breaking off her engagement in order to enter the Abbey:He was furious. Oh, He was so upset. But he said a very unexpected thing which was, ‘you know all love relationships don’t end at the altar, and I will be faithful to you in this.’ Well, I thought that was a head-trip too. I didn’t see how in the world he could do that, but in effect, fifty years later, Don did stay with m … [Read more...]

Dissecting Bodies, Sex, Sin, Selves: Catholic, Muslim and Plasticine

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A couple of days ago Muslimah Media Watch examined the way the media indulges in reductive stereotyping of Muslim women, whenever sexual issues are discussed:Thank you Jezebel for your groundbreaking work in this field and for using phrases like “Islam, surprisingly…” and “All of which may make many a Muslim woman blush,” because that’s not reductive at all – particularly when discussing Muslim women and their intimate lives, completely missing the point that sexuality is a normal part of Is … [Read more...]

Sacred Sex: is a Doorway to the Eternal

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Tim Muldoon winds up his five-part series on the "McDonaldsization of Sex" with some splendid theology:Here's God's proposal: "if you choose to enter into a lifelong relationship with a person of the opposite sex, and choose to love that person in every moment of every day for the rest of your life, you'll come to know who I am and how I love the people I've created. It will demand all of you; it will demand sacrifice and conversion and transformation. It will demand forfeiting all your … [Read more...]

Mother, 21, Beats Cancer after refusing to Abort! Yay! Marriage? Meh. UPDATED

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Photocredit: Caters News AgencyThis is one of those stories that tells you something wonderful about young people and the faith, and also something not so wonderful:The wonderful: This 21 year-old mother was advised to abort her second child in order to begin chemotherapy for cancer; she refused and got the "win-win" - a healthy baby and full recovery:When Daniella Jackson was diagnosed with cancer at five months pregnant her doctors quickly advised her to have an abortion . . But … [Read more...]

CATHARSIS THROUGH FILM: Why “The Notebook” Is the Only Film That Ever Made Me Cry

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I am no one special. Just a common man with common thoughts. I’ve led a common life. There are no monuments dedicated to me and my name will soon be forgotten, but in one respect I’ve succeeded as gloriously as anyone who ever lived. I’ve loved another with all my heart and soul and for me that has always been enough.–Duke (James Garner), “The Notebook”  I’m a pretty tough cookie when it comes to the movies.  I sit back and analyze the dialogue, deconstruct scenes and then imagine them diffe … [Read more...]

The Illusion of Perfect Life

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When we were all young mothers, one of my pals phoned me sounding blue. It turned out her life wasn't what she believed it was supposed to be. She adored her little 18-month-old son almost to distraction and was trying very hard to be the perfect wife with perfect husband, the perfect mother with the perfect son. She felt she was failing, because her life wasn't all coming together "just so." Her son, a biddable, gorgeous little kid, wasn't expressing the tiniest interest in the potty. "But the … [Read more...]

Annulments: Myths and Reality

We've talked a few times about the very real healing that can come through annulments but over at OSV Mary DeTurris Poust and Dennis Poust have together written a particularly good piece on the myths (and there are a lot of myths out there) and realities of this process, which is very much a mischaracterized and misunderstood part of the ministry of the church. The Pousts write from the perspective of a couple who has gone through this process together, and that brings a voice of true … [Read more...]


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