Terry Teachout’s Long Goodbye


Terry Teachout on the death of his mother:As always, I threw myself into work in order to stave off despair. Going to the theater three or four nights a week was as good a way as any to keep my mind occupied, but in between shows I thought the same blunt, ugly thoughts that had come to me at odd moments ever since December. What do I do if she starts to fail while my play is in rehearsal? What's the closest airport to Lenox? What if it happens on the morning of the dress rehearsal? Or on … [Read more...]

A Brother’s Lesson on Christmas

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This morning, on Facebook I noticed that The Christopher's Tony Rossi had posted something from their "Three Minutes A Day feature -- quick inspirational reads that can put a day into perspective. You can get the Three Minutes a Day Book, too and Tony quoted for the latest volume (#47) which is for 2012.As it turns out, that entry uses something from a piece I wrote a long time ago. It was from an open letter, written to Maureen Dowd back when I wasted time and energy trying to cheer her … [Read more...]

When Anchoress Crashed and Burned

I stumbled on to this tonight, while looking for another piece. In re-reading, I realized this is where I was, precisely 5 years ago, tonight.I do surely miss my brother. But I am so grateful for the lessons we learned together, in his last days.ANCHORESS CRASHES AND BURNS; FILM AT 11 Reposted from December 22, 2004So, as sometimes happens in life, everything came to a head yesterday afternoon. After a so-so day at work, during which I made arrangements with my pediatrician to get a … [Read more...]

Thank you for your condolences

Please accept my heartfelt thanks to all of you who have left comments or emails of condolences on the passing of my brother John. I have been immensely touched by the prayers, the very kind and thoughtful messages - even by one person painting a nativity set and dedicating St. Joseph - patron of the dying - to John's memory. I have been exceedingly moved by so much generosity of spirit, and pray God blesses all of you, especially in this season of hope.Someone wrote, "Anchoress, this is the … [Read more...]

Warnock: put down the sick, senile, elderly

"If you're demented, you're wasting people's lives -- your family's lives -- and you're wasting the resources of the National Health Service."So says Baroness Warnock, who has been advocating euthanasia in Britain for a long time is at it again.I'm too under the weather to write, but I address this troubled woman, when my brother was dying, in this piece:Our brother has lately gone quiet. He moans and coughs. When he does speak it is a word or two, soft and hoarse and largely … [Read more...]

Ferraro Quits: Old Man River Keeps Rolling

Geraldine Ferraro, having suggested publicly not once, but twice, over the course of 20 years and two African-American presidential bids, that (essentially) the black man can only ascend to the presidency through affirmative action or white guilt, is stepping down from her position in the Clinton campaign's finance committee:Ferraro said she is stepping down so, "I can speak for myself and you can continue to speak for yourself about what is at stake in this campaign."Okay. Possibly she … [Read more...]

The Head Deatheater

His first act as president was to strengthen abortion rights.Now he is chastising Christians for not co-operating with death to ease the health care burden. In making a point about the importance of having a living will, ex-President Bill Clinton remarked that religious Americans are apparently hypocrites for not wishing to go quietly into that goodnight."It's interesting to me that we always proclaim – especially certain numbers of us – that we're the most religious big country in the wor … [Read more...]

We’re in this together, outside of time

I have been corresponding with a friend who is enduring the loss of a beloved family member; his grief is still very new. My grief for my brother S is a little older. It was just a bare week or so ago that I noted the passing of one year since he entered hospice.The grief is older, but not much easier.I have lost birth-mother, birth-father, one brother from my birth family, one brother from my new family (my husband's family are my family in a way my birth family never could be...) in … [Read more...]

“Witch Hunt”: Goodstein drops the ball

There are only a handful of reporters at the NY Times I really respect, and Laurie Goodstein, who covers religion, has been one of them. She is generally very balanced in her reporting, very careful to make sure she is presenting all sides.She doesn't do it in this piece, though. This piece, while taking the time to quote folks in the pew, spends a great deal of time fomenting sympathy for gay priests and seminarians while skipping over the "whys" of the current "witch hunt."Full … [Read more...]

The Church of Good Health: Body, Mind, Spirit? Body…Body…Body?

It's curious to find my first post today to be about health, since I have succumbed to some raggedy-assed virus of a sort. I haven't exactly crashed and burned as in the past, but it's been a logey and cruddy sort of day. But enough about me.Ann Althouse has an interesting post on a recent statement by the Vatican. Althouse herself, crediting the Vat with having a made a good point, says: Perhaps as an ethical matter, anyone contemplating something like cosmetic surgery, ought to think again and … [Read more...]