Gay Marriage, Eden & Our Constant Illusion – UPDATED

My column at First Things this week completes the journey I began three weeks ago, and I have to say the timing of the whole thing seems oddly coincidental, to me. I've had the idea of discussing homosexuality and God, otherness, nature and nurture and calling and depth of longing and marriage for a while, but never felt like it was the right time to bring it up, and then -- even though I wasn't paying much attention to the headlines when I began -- it all seems to have landed at the same time … [Read more...]

Ah, this is Romantic and Sound

Tim Muldoon's piece this week really is both profound and romantic and profoundly romantic:On the day this column is published, a woman named Sue will make a decision that will affect the rest of her life. To be more precise, she will reaffirm a decision that she has already made 6,574 times: to spend the day married to me. On this day, she and I will celebrate eighteen years of marriage.In days like these when fewer people choose to marry, and when the ideas of what marrying means are … [Read more...]

Dating, Si; Cohabiting, No?

WRITTEN BY MAX LINDENMAN:Yesterday, I was impressed to see so many readers celebrating the royal wedding as a validation of marriage. At First Things, Meghan Duke takes a slightly different approach: she sees it as a rebuke to the practice of permanent cohabitation:“It’s probably best that they live together before making a commitment,” one random fellow interviewed by the AP opined. According to anonymous “Royal commentators,” cohabiting on and off with his girlfriend has put Prince Wil … [Read more...]

The Royal Wedding: Do You Care?

I confess, I don't. Maybe it's reverse-snobbery: the less I hear about my socioeconomic betters, the better -- that's why I never got into Desperate Housewives or Mad Men. Or maybe it's sheer perversity: whatever the world loves, Lindenman must despise -- that's why I have never, to this day, seen any of the Rings movies.Or it may be something even more basic: the envy I feel toward people of whatever station who are happily married. One time last year, a friend literally thrust her … [Read more...]