Gay Marriage, Eden & Our Constant Illusion – UPDATED

My column at First Things this week completes the journey I began three weeks ago, and I have to say the timing of the whole thing seems oddly coincidental, to me. I’ve had the idea of discussing homosexuality and God, otherness, nature and nurture and calling and depth of longing and marriage for a while, [...]

How to Make Prudery Readable?

For my curtain call, I’d like to solicit thoughts on an essay that appeared several months ago in the Times. Critic Katie Roiphe argues that this generation of male novelist writes lousy sex toys. A bold previous generation, including Norman Mailer, Philip Roth and John Updike, regarded sex — particularly transgressive sex, like adultery, hate-couplings [...]

Dating, Si; Cohabiting, No?

WRITTEN BY MAX LINDENMAN: Yesterday, I was impressed to see so many readers celebrating the royal wedding as a validation of marriage. At First Things, Meghan Duke takes a slightly different approach: she sees it as a rebuke to the practice of permanent cohabitation: “It’s probably best that they live together before making a commitment,” [...]

No, Virtue is not impossible

Call it Virtue. Call it Chastity. Call it Continence. Whatever you want to call it, our society loves to tell us that it can’t be lived, is weird to try, and an attraction to it probably means that you’re all neurotic and hung-up, provincial and you know, like, so lame. In an era where city [...]