Stop Tolerating Your Life!

In my last blog I wrote about accepting people as they want to be. In other words, stop trying to teach the pig to sing – it doesn’t work and it annoys the pig. Please don’t get self-righteous and tell me I’m calling people pigs, although that wouldn’t be an insult anyway. Pigs are perhaps [Read More...]

Changing Others

“Just who do you think you are to tell God what to do?!?” That’s the response I got from a spiritual counselor years ago when I was detailing to her all the ways my lover at the time needed to change to have the life he deserved. “What makes you think what he’s going through [Read More...]

Here It Comes – Will You Survive?

I appreciate that you read my blog and take an interest in my work. I don’t want to waste your time. That’s why I wasn’t going to write a blog this week. Nothing was moving me to express myself. You see, I don’t write unless I have something meaningful to say. That may sound totally obvious, [Read More...]

The Southern Belle Primer

Why do you care what other people think of you? As a recovering people-pleaser I’ve been asked that question a lot. The first thought that comes to mind is the admonition from my mother that I must always wear clean underwear. That way the paramedics and nurses won’t think less of me if I’m in [Read More...]

Communication

Do you ever get mired in a situation or conversation and then wondered how the heck you got there? I’m involved in a couple of organizations. I’ve served on many boards in the past few decades. One thing continues to be the same:  Miscommunication causes major issues that should never have been an issue in [Read More...]

Can You Say “No?”

How skilled are you in saying “No” to a request or opportunity? I have to admit this is something I’ve struggled with throughout my life. Perhaps you, too, have had those occasions in which you wanted to say “No,” but found “Yes” stumbling off your tongue. We can, in fact, even do this with a [Read More...]

What’s Your Problem?

Has anyone ever asked you that? I remember my grandpa Jack yelling that at my grandma Esther one time. Her answer, as I recall, was something along the line of, “YOU!” Their relationship was fragile at best. Maybe you have started out your day very upbeat and happy. Suddenly – sometimes very suddenly – everything [Read More...]

Facts and Opinions

Have you ever been told you “need to get your facts straight?” I have. But in retrospect I have found that it wasn’t my facts that needed the examination. It was the opinion of the other person. And, in all fairness, I’ve definitely been on the other side of that conversation as well. My friend, [Read More...]

Rest

Do you get enough rest? Perhaps you’re a working parent with two or more kids and a full-time job; that would be a “no.” Maybe you’re working full-time plus attending college to finish a degree; another “no.” Or, you might be maintaining your home life while working full-time, as well as caring for an elderly [Read More...]

Work

Are you just a secretary? Mechanic? Waitress? Just anything? Those are such degrading statements and have, in the past, made my blood boil. For me the two I most often get are, “So you’re just a flight attendant,” often accompanied by its evil cousin, “Oh … so you not a real minister then, are you?” [Read More...]


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