Dating + Courtship = Dateship

I just wrote a piece for Boundless entitled “21st-Century Love” that is my attempt at helping singles who want to get married find their way to the altar. I propose a system called “dateship” which is 1/4 cup dating and 3/4 cup courtship. Here are the first two steps of what “dateship” can look like: Step One: [Read More...]

How Much Should “Connection” Factor Into Getting Married?

This is a tough question. It’s especially tough because many of us have been trained by our culture–romance novels, movies, songs–to think of “connection” as a mystical force. It’s unstoppable. It’s uncontainable. You either have it or you don’t. I just wrote a piece for Boundless called “Irresistible Taste: The 5 Points of Attraction.” In this [Read More...]

3 Things That Marriage Accomplishes

One of the strongest challenges in creating a marriage-friendly culture today is overcoming myths that crop up around it. Because marriage is a huge deal, people alternately get scared of it, attack it, or avoid it. To counter the misconceptions, I  just wrote a piece for Boundless entitled “What Is Marriage Really Like?” that addresses, um, what [Read More...]

How on Earth Should Christians Handle “Abortion Contracts” and “Throuples”?

This is a confusing age for Christians. There are many cultural challenges to marriage popping up, so many that it’s hard to keep track of them all, let alone respond biblically to them. I just wrote a piece for Desiring God entitled “Can You Define the Relationship?” that tackles three new perversions of God’s design [Read More...]

Official CBMW Statement on the DOMA Decision: How Should the Church Respond?

Official Statement by Owen Strachan Executive Director, Council on Biblical Manhood & Womanhood (CBMW) RE: DOMA and Prop 8 decisions June 26, 2013 *************** Today, the Supreme Court of the United States of America released two rulings on the matter of marriage. The first related to the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), the second to [Read More...]

Should Christian Men Call Their Wives “Smokin’ Hot”?

I just wrote my first piece for the CBMW Men’s blog, Manual (see the brand-new Twitter feed here). It’s an interaction with the fairly common practice among younger evangelical men of saying that their wives are “hot” or, if you’re really going all out, “smoking hot.” Below is an excerpt. I try to pull out the [Read More...]

Introducing Marriage Generation

Have you heard of the just-launched pro-marriage initiative called Marriage Generation? A group of friends just launched it: Chris Marlink , Eric Teetsel, Andrew Walker, and yours very truly. Just this past week we met in Washington, D. C. to strategize about its promotion. While in town, I also attended the Marriage March, which went [Read More...]

Do Something Really Hedonistic & Wild: Get Married Young

Noteworthy piece from Karen Swallow Prior at The Atlantic on the costs of delaying marriage and the case for entering into it while young. Here’s a swatch: Interestingly, in a 2009 report, sociologist Mark Regnerus found that much of the pressure to delay marriage comes from parents who encourage their children to finish their education before marrying. One [Read More...]

Meet the Young Guns Who Are Leading the Pro-Marriage Effort

The New York Times just published a piece about the various young leaders of the pro-marriage effort in the nation’s capital. It’s an exciting story, and it features two good friends of mine, Andrew Walker and Eric Teetsel. The story, entitled “Young Opponents of Sam-Sex Marriage Undaunted” by Samantha Parker, also references Ryan Anderson, who I [Read More...]

Homosexuality and Humanity

One of the most common ideas on offer in the cultural discussion of homosexuality is this: “humanity.” As in something like, “Senator Rob Portman now affirms same-sex marriage because he has seen the humanity of his son.” The implication of this statement, at least by some, is that considering homosexuality a sin per Romans 1 [Read More...]


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