Rejecting God

It's no secret to anyone who has been reading my blog these past ten months that my uncle's death has sent me into a crisis of faith. I am not really sure if "crisis" is the right word because it isn't like I am struggling to believe in God, His Goodness or that everything that happens in my life will help save me, even the suffering because God has to power to do that. I know all of these things. So what is my problem? I am not sure but I had a little bit of an aha moment about what my "crisis" … [Read more...]

So I lied to Ya’ll

Awhile back I wrote a blog post saying that I have no parenting advice. Well, I lied. I know that new parents and parents with small kids are like 20 year olds & engaged couples who think they know everything and don't need unsolicited advice but after my week training with seven 19-23 year olds, I'm gonna dish some out anyway.Let your kids fail. Stop setting such high standards for them and expecting them to never fail at things. Let them figure things out for themselves and fail. And … [Read more...]

Absent Fathers

A few weeks ago I sat in child support court for almost an entire day and let me tell you, it was a very ugly place to be. There was anger, pain and brokenness all around me. I have been a single mother, I have gotten child support from two men for my kids and I am married to a man who has been screwed over by his ex-wife for child support by lying about the amount she has gotten from him. All that is to say that I have been on every side of this issue.When I looked around at the men though, … [Read more...]

Life: the Gift that Bites You in the Ass

You know how I said that I used to think I knew everything about parenting? Well, this is something that I've been thinking about a lot lately because I see people online all the time talking about how shitty other parents are. Whether it be about vaccines (oh lawd I said that word on my blog, I'm sure there will be a party of crazy in my combox later), food choices, parenting styles, spanking, or any other of the million things that we think we have to have an opinion about, there is always … [Read more...]

What I’ve Learned about Parenting

I have been a mother since I was 16 years old. I have given birth to four kids, miscarried one child and been the step-mother to three. I now have two grandchildren and I'm almost 40 years old. This is what I have learned about mothering/parenting children: I have no effing clue what I'm doing.There are a lot of factors that made me think I was a horrible mother. I did a lot of things that weren't things responsible parents do, like marry a man I only knew for two weeks and have kids with … [Read more...]

Today’s Reason for Not Reading Amoris Laetitia

So you know how the Pope released a document about how to love each other in a family and stuff? Well, you know how I've been trying to read it since the minute that it was published? I still haven't.My uncle is in ICU so I was with him for a few days, then when I got back my oldest son went to go see him so I watched his kids while he went. I have no clue how you ladies with small kids get anything done because all I could do was keep them alive, fed and entertained. I never really stayed … [Read more...]

Our World Needs Intentional Disciples of Christ

It has been a crazy few weeks. I am not really sure what is going on, but I have felt under severe spiritual attack and it's not very much fun.I always wonder about spiritual attack. Like, at what point am I just over reacting and at what point am I under reacting. Actually that is the story of my life. I am always doing either one or the other. I'm a radical, I have a hard time with balance. So for me spiritual warfare comes with a whole other set of problems: me trying to discern exactly … [Read more...]