Dads in Divorce Court at Jesus Creed and Tikkun

Scot takes on an issue I’ve rarely seen him touch before. He has discussed divorce in the past at Jesus Creed, but never advocated for a position (at least as far as I can recall). But last week he allowed Taylor George to guest post, and George asks why divorce proceedings still favor the mother:

Truth be told, there is no perfect way to split a family. It is obviously a complex situation for a third party to figure out. Once again though, we know how the courts usually rule. Fathers get a couple weekends a month, a week or two in the summer, no decision making in the life of the children, and many times a crippling monthly payment. In the state of California it can be as much as sixty percent of your income.

So here is the question: Why does this have to be the de facto one size fits all solution? Why must Dads be guilty until proven innocent? Why can’t we figure out how to share physical custody especially for children well beyond infancy?

That reminded me of a fascinating article I read a couple months ago in Tikkun Magazine, written by Bruce Peterson, the former presiding judge of the Family Court in Hennepin County — so he used to be the boss of the Family Court referee that oversaw my divorce.

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