When Men Treat Men Like Men Treat Women

This post is part of a debate on gay marriage.  I'm responding to Matt's post on gay marriage and deep friendship, and this is the second part of my three-part rebuttal.Matt is worried that acknowledgement of same-sex attraction will warp intense same-sex friendships, even in a world where homosexuality isn’t stigmatized. He’s probably right that it will change guy-guy dynamics, so I’d like to talk a bit about why men have been able to isolate themselves from this danger in the past. … [Read more...]

Weighing the Consequences of Gay Marriage

This post is part of a debate on gay marriage.  I'm responding to Matt's post on gay marriage and deep friendship, and this is the first part of my three-part rebuttal.  Thanks again to Matt for taking on this debate. The second part of his argument will run tomorrow. Thanks also to the mostly respectful and mostly constructive commentariat.One reason I like arguing with conservatives is because even if I don't end up agreeing with them, they tend to be good at pointing out the cost of w … [Read more...]

Gay Marriage and Male Friendship

This is a guest post for a debate on the consequences of gay marriage.  The opinions expressed below are fairly obviously not my own.  Oh, but I did do the pictures.This week at Yale an undergraduate organization known as Undergraduates for a Better Yale College is hosting Professor Anthony Esolen of Providence College. Picking up on one series of blog posts he wrote critical of gay marriage, the Yale community has begun to express outrage. A campus publication calls his work “vitriolic a … [Read more...]

Debating Gay Marriage [Index Post]

There's a controversy brewing at my alma mater.  As the kickoff to True Love Week (meant to contrast with the concurrently running Sex Week at Yale), organizers invited Professor Anthony Esolen of Providence College to speak on "The Person as a Gift."  A few days before the keynote, IvyGate publicized Esolen's fervent writings about the destructive power of gay marriage.  Activists on campus organized a kiss-in and then marched out of Esolen's talk.I disapprove of demonstrations that inter … [Read more...]

The Matriarchy Trap

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Kate Bolick's cover story for The Atlantic on living with the poor marriage prospects for women ("All the Single Ladies") prompted a lot of comment, but I thought Lea Halim had the most thought-provoking response in National Review ("Why Not Matriarchy?").   I'm going to summarize and quote to be able to comment, but do yourself a favor and read her piece in full.  Now, here’s the pull-quote: In a caricature patriarchal society, men have all the earning power, determine the structure of both the … [Read more...]

Retronymic Marriage

Defining marriage

Temporary marriage (no, not that kind) has been all over the news since some Mexico City lawmakers started pushing for marriage contracts that expire after two years. I don’t know enough about Mexico City politics to guess whether this proposal has a chance of passing or whether it’s a vanity bill, but that doesn’t seem to have stopped the blogosphere from bewailing it as the latest sign of the marriage apocalypse.Instead of defending marriage, religious leaders should work on defining it. Th … [Read more...]

Meeting Mr. Wrong (Book)

A few weeks ago, I finished reading Stephanie Coontz’s Marriage, a History: From Obedience to Intimacy, or How Love Conquered Marriage, but I’ve delayed writing about it as a Sunday’s Good Book post. The trouble was, although Coontz wrote an interesting book, it wasn’t the book I was looking for on the history of marriage.When Coontz charts marriage’s evolution, she does so primarily through the lens of economic and social pressures. She takes a long-distance, outsider view of these shifts ex … [Read more...]


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