The Matriarchy Trap


Kate Bolick's cover story for The Atlantic on living with the poor marriage prospects for women ("All the Single Ladies") prompted a lot of comment, but I thought Lea Halim had the most thought-provoking response in National Review ("Why Not Matriarchy?").   I'm going to summarize and quote to be able to comment, but do yourself a favor and read her piece in full.  Now, here’s the pull-quote: In a caricature patriarchal society, men have all the earning power, determine the structure of both the … [Read more...]

Retronymic Marriage

Defining marriage

Temporary marriage (no, not that kind) has been all over the news since some Mexico City lawmakers started pushing for marriage contracts that expire after two years. I don’t know enough about Mexico City politics to guess whether this proposal has a chance of passing or whether it’s a vanity bill, but that doesn’t seem to have stopped the blogosphere from bewailing it as the latest sign of the marriage apocalypse.Instead of defending marriage, religious leaders should work on defining it. Th … [Read more...]

Meeting Mr. Wrong (Book)

A few weeks ago, I finished reading Stephanie Coontz’s Marriage, a History: From Obedience to Intimacy, or How Love Conquered Marriage, but I’ve delayed writing about it as a Sunday’s Good Book post. The trouble was, although Coontz wrote an interesting book, it wasn’t the book I was looking for on the history of marriage.When Coontz charts marriage’s evolution, she does so primarily through the lens of economic and social pressures. She takes a long-distance, outsider view of these shifts ex … [Read more...]

What about other Others?

Voting for the Christian round of the Turing Test is ongoing!   Get thee there if you haven't weighed in yet.  So, back to some of my undisguised opinions for a bit, as we wait for the survey results.  There's been a lot of commenting on the Natural vs Normative thread about homosexuality.  Benjamin Baxter of Prodigal No More just brought up a common philosophical argument against homosexuality that I want to take a minute to address.  He wrote: Stripping the procreative, only lea … [Read more...]

Natural vs Normative

I appreciate the Christians weighing in on why they oppose gay marriage and trying to explain how they think people are harmed. One genre of response has turned up in thread and is fairly widespread, so I’ll try to address it. Anonymous wrote: Many people are wondering why infertile heterosexual marriages are considered moral and praise worthy while homosexual "marriages" are not. The reason is that in an infertile heterosexual marriage the sexual organs are, at least, being used for the p … [Read more...]

Put Your Money Where Your Marriage Is

After New York legalized gay marriage Southern Baptist Theological Seminary president Albert Mohler posted the following message to twitter (h/t Daylight Atheism): Now, fully 1 in 9 Americans will live in a state with legalized same-sex marriage. Our mission field is getting more complicated. Adam of Daylight Atheism offered his own gloss on this pronouncement, I’ve got a different hypothesis that requires some feedback by any opposed-to-gay marriage readers. First off, here’s what Adam wro … [Read more...]

Submitting to Others

This is part of a series on covenant marriage, and, hopefully, it’s becoming clearer what this all has to do with virtue.How do you know that you’re not a psychopath?The simplest check on your sense perception (moral or physical) is checking with others to see if they have the same observations as you. If you diverge, you have to weigh the odds that you are the lone sane person in a crazy world. If you’re seeing auras that are invisible to everyone else, you probably have a migraine, not … [Read more...]