My turn to play #mencallmethings

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After a little more than four years of blogging, last night is the first time I got called a c-word online.  And then it happened again.  And then again. What provoked this?  These two tweets: Not going back to the convenience store on the corner after clerk aggressively asked for my number (but not my name) #YesAllWomen I really don't like that sketchy clerks, etc can de facto bar me from places, since it's imprudent to return & keep saying no #YesAllWomen It was medium-unpleasant en … [Read more...]

Making a Home for the Homely in Romance

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I don't follow the opera world, but critics made enough of a stir about the attractiveness (insufficient, in their judgement) of a mezzo-soprano in an English production Der Rosenkavalier for the conversation to cross over to the mainstream media.  The NYT brought together two classical music reviewers to comment, and I was particularly struck by this analysis by Corinna da Fonseca-Wollheim:[O]pera has a complicated history of celebrating and exploiting women, and I can’t help feeling that th … [Read more...]

Pardon me, are you using that education?

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In The Guardian, Keli Goff has some harsh words for women in my demographic who become stay at home mothers. In "Female Ivy League graduates have a duty to stay in the workforce" she writes: But in the long run, degrees from competitive institutions should serve as more than modern day charm school or debutante diplomas. Sadly, it appears some women and men see them as such, simply a piece of paper to affirm that a woman is good spouse material for yet another man to use his Harvard Law degree … [Read more...]

The Sin of Inconvenience

From "Reasons My Son is Crying"

I'd like to highlight a couple comments from the quite long thread on Babies on a Plane! My original intent wasn't to shame people for being bothered by screaming babies. There are few people who enjoy the sound of a human in distress (of any age), and we would be a little concerned about someone who was unmoved or pleased to hear someone cry.  My objection wasn't to the NYT letter writer being uncomfortable, but the tone of entitlement in her note that suggested the presence of a baby was an … [Read more...]

What Good is Sitting Alone at Your Desk?

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In The Washington Post, Elsa Walsh takes issue with Sheryl Sandberg's Lean In.  Walsh thinks Sandburg's tactics are pretty good instrumentally, but she's a bit sickened by the kind of success Sandberg is using them for: I have to wonder if Sandberg does not realize that she is going to die someday. There is so little life and pleasure in her book outside of work. Even sex is framed as something that men will get more of if they pitch in and help their working wives.Success, particularly the … [Read more...]

Oh Stewardess? There’s a Baby in my Plane!

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In The New York Times's Metropolitan Diary feature, one reader shares the following story: While waiting on the business class boarding line at J.F.K., I spied parents with their 3-month-old daughter.This American Airlines flight to Barbados was going to be long, and the thought of a crying baby near me in business class did not make me smile.What did make me smile was watching her mom, after we were all seated comfortably, distribute little goody bags filled with Advil, tea bags and … [Read more...]

Superpowered Feminism

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This was going to be a short post, but there were a lot of good women to link to, so just think of this post as an epic crossover.Perhaps it's not intuitive to go to tumblrs commenting on the questionable anatomy of girls in comic books for smart, incisive commentary on feminism and (sometimes inadvertent) misogyny, but man oh man are you missing out.I follow Escher Girls, a tumblr that collects professional drawings of superheroines that have something terribly wrong with them (the tags … [Read more...]


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