Love and Real Estate, All About Location, Location Location

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The best living experience I've had was definitely in college.   The density of people meant that third places were everywhere -- dining halls, courtyards, and coffee shops that I could sit in and be stumbled across by friends, and settle in for conversation and companionship.  It's hard to replicate as an adult, because, even though I'm fortunate to have a lot of the people I care about all live in one city, we live up to an hour from each other, so all meetings tend to be scheduled.  There's no … [Read more...]

“Safety” is a Piss-Poor Pitch for Chastity


A recent First Things post aimed to arm its readers with a positive case for chastity, one that could appeal to non-Christian friends.  But I struggled to find anything positive or invigorating in the sample arguments presented.  For example: A case at University of Houston may serve. According to a legal complaint filed in U.S. District Court, the facts aren’t unusual. One evening, after attending a UH event, a male student went to a nearby bar and met a female student for the first time. They … [Read more...]

“It is Not Good for Man to be Alone” – a review of Gay and Catholic

A New Living Rainforest Experience Is Launched At London Zoo

A few weeks ago, our Dominican-run Adult Sunday School tackled the topic of "Deadly Sins and Lively Virtues" and the brother teaching walked us through St. Thomas Aquinas's classification of sins and their progeny (i.e. clamor (speaking so intemperately so as to lose the ability to say actual words) is one of the offspring of wrath).  As our Dominican friar kept expanding the flow chart of faults, the most surprising branch turned out to be the cluster of sins rooted in Sloth.(Editorial … [Read more...]

Interviewing Eve Tushnet on Vocations of Love

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Yesterday, I had the pleasure of doing a Q&A with Eve Tushnet, author of Gay and Catholic: Accepting My Sexuality, Finding Community, Living My Faith as part of her ongoing Patheos book club. I'll be writing my own review of the book soon, but, in the meantime, enjoy the video above, place an order for the book, and check out Eve's blog (especially the posts with "Book Extra" in the title).  … [Read more...]

Prelude to a (Platonic) Kiss


Eve Tushnet (whose book is now out, and you don't need to stand on ceremony waiting for me to formally review it next week to buy it for yourself) has a great point to make about the significance of the Kiss of Peace in an essay for On Level Ground: Words are great, don’t get me wrong, I pray words a lot. But we worship with our whole bodies. We kneel, prostrate, open our mouths or lift our hands to receive the Body and Blood of Christ. And so I wonder if one other thing the nascent celibate g … [Read more...]

Writing Relationships into a Corner


Earlier this week, I was chatting with a friend about A.O. Scott's big piece on storytelling and the death of adulthood.  Scott discusses the tendency of male heroes to "light out for the Territory," escaping the feminized world of social expectations and perhaps a specific female person (be it mother or maiden).  While Huck stepped outside of society in order to critique it, men in modern stories, Scott claims, tend to be rebels in retreat; they've traded in Jim's raft for the stoner's c … [Read more...]

The Loves We Need From Other People

Friends mutually supporting each other

Apropos of our discussion of friendship, romance, and the very confusing boundaries and barriers between the two, I wanted to share this excerpt from Wesley Hill's Washed and Waiting: Reflections on Christian Faithfulness and Homosexuality.  In this part of the book (in the section titled "The End of Loneliness"), Hill is listening to a professor speak about a queer woman who was trying to figure out how (or if!) to sublimate her love and desires for women into love of God. In her desire for o … [Read more...]