You’ve Got a (Vowed) Friend in Me

Illustration of two parabatai by achelseabee on DeviantArt

A Queer Calling, an excellent blog run by two celibate women living in partnership together, recently did a little explainer on adelphopoiesis (also known as the brother-making rite) that some people have tried to adapt or reclaim as a blessing for same sex relationships.  The Queer Calling women don't make any assumptions about the goals of other people using the rite, but explain why it doesn't make sense for their relationship: Though we do acknowledge that all members of the Church are … [Read more...]

Yes, I am in favor of civil gay marriage!

Gay-Marriage just married

It looks like folks thought I was being coy in Sunday's post about the knock-on effects of gay marriage.  In fact, I was trying to avoid having the "gay marriage: yay or nay" debate hijack the point I was making: that the advent of gay marriage has made people pause and ask exactly what marriage is instead of embracing or rejecting it in a knee-jerk way.  The argument I was making didn't have the moral stature of gay marriage as a premise, and I wanted it to discuss something orthogonal to the us … [Read more...]

A reading from Henry VI, Part 2 4:2:73

Yes, in context, the line has the opposite sentiment to most of the people quoting it.Yvain asked, in good faith, a detailed question about Natural Law theology, but his comment is buried in the wilds of the comment policy discussion, where tempers are rising.  So I want to pull it out and give it its own thread, and also take the opportunity to do some of the wacky experimental comment moderation I was talking about yesterday.  Here's how it's going to go down:Only make a top-level … [Read more...]

What would someone have to say to you to get you to break up your family?

freaky friday

For your own good at that.This isn't a hypothetical question.  There are plenty of examples where we think this kind of intervention is acceptable or even necessary.  In decreasing order of urgency: an abusive spouse, two people who bring out the worst in each other, a couple that's stayed together out of inertia, the person you're with at the beginning of a romantic comedy, etc.But no matter how urgent the need for this conversation, most of us would recognize that this is a really trick … [Read more...]

On Value-Neutral Bravery

green-day-heart-grenade

Back before I went off to awesome, wacky summer camp (a few more things to come on that, by the way), I was writing a series of posts on martyrdom, pacifism, drone strikes and other problems of offering resistance.   And it turns out, looking over some of the posts I missed, I wasn't the only Patheos blogger wondering whether you can praise courage regardless of what exactly the person you're admiring is steeling herself to do. I was talking about drone strikes and David French is talking about h … [Read more...]

And Speaking of Sample Size Problems…

family sample size

Remember that study contrasting outcomes for children of gay parents with children in other kinds of families?  We discussed a couple methodological concerns here already, but I want to give them credit where it's due.  The New Family Structures Survey put together a very nice interactive visualization for their data.  And, even more credit, their sample sizes and demographic breakdowns are available right on the first page of the visualization.People have complained about how few children in … [Read more...]

A little about the queer stuff

I had some major qualms about talking to a writer for the Blaze, but I remembered the byline from a pretty good interview with Todd Stiefel (a major atheist philanthopist), and I liked the questions that Billy Hallowell sent over.Now seems like a pretty good time to mention that talking to someone doesn't mean I'm endorsing them.  I generally find it easier to thrash out and clarify my ideas when I've got an interlocutor to play off of, so I've done some chatting with people who seem like … [Read more...]


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