Starving for Communal Spaces and Communion

vanishing bench

Over at AmCon today, I've got a piece up "Starving for Communal Spaces" and here's how it opens: A man walks into a business establishment and pays a small sum of money for the use of their premises. He’s slightly furtive about it, and the proprietor would probably deny the nature of the service provided, but the gentleman is seeking companionship, and doesn’t have anywhere else to go.I’m not describing the kind of tawdry hotel that rents its rooms by the hour, but a coffee shop or a fast fo … [Read more...]

I’m at First Things today!

Remember the post last week on careers and hookup culture where I eschewed punny titles in favor of non-verbal rage?  Well, I've expanded on some of those ideas and picked up a few new digressions in an essay for First Things's On the Square feature.  My essay is titled "The Sad Secular Monks" and here's a teaser quote: After graduation from college, young adults lose their deadlines. We stop making transitions as a cohort, and are expected to figure out when new stages of life begin on our ow … [Read more...]

Aaaahhh! Aaaaahhhhh! AAAAAaaaaahhhhhhHHHH!

That's my knee jerk reaction to Hanna Rosin's new piece for the Atlantic on whether women are well served by hookup culture. I'll get a little more cogent after the blockquote: But this analysis downplays the unbelievable gains women have lately made, and, more important, it forgets how much those gains depend on sexual liberation. Single young women in their sexual prime—that is, their 20s and early 30s, the same age as the women at the business-­school party—are for the first time in history m … [Read more...]

Ending with a clinch, not a child [Sondheim]

This post is part of a symposium on Stephen Sondheim's Company.I really enjoyed Gilbert's post on the absence of children in a musical about marriage.  This isn't a problem unique to Company, but I think it's more noticable these because Company seems like it's intended to say more about marriage.In most romances, the catharsis comes with a clinch, not a child.  The couple run at each other in slow motion, the music swells, and the pair lock lips.  Sometimes the camera will swoop out, … [Read more...]

Why be out as bisexual?

closet

This is a follow-up to my post on National Coming Out Day and the subsequent Bisexuality Q&A.Several comments asked why I thought it was necessary to be out as a bisexual if I'm currently dating a guy.  After all, I admit that although bisexuality is part of my identity, it's certainly not the most important thing to know about me (that identifier is: giant geek).  And isn't it all kinda moot if I'm not currently single?Let me run through the reasons I make a point of being out:I … [Read more...]

Coming Out (and at ‘em)

Pride March

(UPDATE: It looks like some of you have questions about bisexuality.  Feel free to ask them in the comments and I'll answer them in tomorrow's post)Today is National Coming Out Day (the link goes to Lambda Legal, not HRC, since Lambda puts donations to work on activism and HRC throws party for legislators without much to show for it). That makes today a good day to mention that I’m bisexual to any new readers I’ve picked up here at Patheos.I mention it because, when you write a blog abou … [Read more...]

Retronymic Marriage

Defining marriage

Temporary marriage (no, not that kind) has been all over the news since some Mexico City lawmakers started pushing for marriage contracts that expire after two years. I don’t know enough about Mexico City politics to guess whether this proposal has a chance of passing or whether it’s a vanity bill, but that doesn’t seem to have stopped the blogosphere from bewailing it as the latest sign of the marriage apocalypse.Instead of defending marriage, religious leaders should work on defining it. Th … [Read more...]


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