What dating process would give rise to companionate marriages? [Blogathon 11/12]

This post is number eleven of twelve for the Secular Student Alliance Blogathon.  I'm responding to comments in the "Go Ahead, Tell Me What's Wrong with Homosexuality" thread all day.  You can read an explanation of the Blogathon and a pitch for donations (even if you're religious) here. Ok, I'm one post from the end of the Blogathon, so I'm allowed to go off the deep end a little, right? In the last post, the Alan Jacobs quote suggested that Pride and Prejudice might be a good model … [Read more...]

Companionate Marriage for Everyone? [Blogathon 10/12]

This post is number ten of twelve for the Secular Student Alliance Blogathon.  I'm responding to comments in the "Go Ahead, Tell Me What's Wrong with Homosexuality" thread all day.  You can read an explanation of the Blogathon and a pitch for donations (even if you're religious) here. Alan Jacobs had an interesting response to the Noah Millman piece about the gay Mormon's companionate marriage I was discussing in the last post.  Jacobs wrote: What this story is pointing to is the … [Read more...]

How Critical is Sexual Desire to Human Identity? [Blogathon 8/12]

This post is number eight of twelve for the Secular Student Alliance Blogathon.  I'm responding to comments in the "Go Ahead, Tell Me What's Wrong with Homosexuality" thread all day.  You can read an explanation of the Blogathon and a pitch for donations (even if you're religious) here. At one point in the discussion, Ubiquitous was expanding on Thomist philosophy and laid out a 'prebuttal' (of which I'm excerpting only one idea): In a hale and mature adult human, eyes are for seeing. … [Read more...]

“The rumba is a vertical expression of a horizontal desire” [Blogathon 2/12]

This post is number two of twelve for the Secular Student Alliance Blogathon.  I'm responding to comments in the "Go Ahead, Tell Me What's Wrong with Homosexuality" thread all day.  You can read an explanation of the Blogathon and a pitch for donations (even if you're religious) here. At some point in the long discussion of homosexuality, I asked why the Catholic church puts erotic same sex relationships and acts in the same category as erotic male-female acts in the first place.  I … [Read more...]

Go Ahead, Tell Me What’s Wrong with Homosexuality

One of the reasons I found the "gay brownshirts" argument so frustrating is that it's a distraction from the fight I really want to have with Mark Shea and other orthodox Catholics.  I want to know why they think gay people are required to be chaste, why homosexual relationships are 'intrinsically disordered.'  Mark put out a call to his commenters on my behalf for reading recommendations. My questions are a little unusual, as I don't think it's necessarily wrong to limit the behavior … [Read more...]

What are we going to do about homosocial friendship?

Last night was the season finale of Sherlock (which I hope you were all watching), and, in one sequence, Sherlock and Watson end up handcuffed together.  As they clasp hands and start running, Watson shakes his head and mutters, "We're never going to hear the end of this."  Watson's frustration that everyone assumes he and Sherlock are, ahem, involved is shared by Maureen Ryan, who wrote at HuffPo that the "not-that-we're-gay" joke that follows around male-partners-in-crime (or crime solving) … [Read more...]

Worlds We’re Not Having Sex In

There was a lot of backlash to my Soup Nazi Approach to Sexuality post and the responsibility vs. culpability follow-up. So now it’s time to address the gender-related objections and questions. The gist of the comments was that I was unfairly/arbitrarily letting the woman have all the power in the choice of whether to have an orphan, an abortion, or raise a child (the three options for dealing with a pregnancy). I was accused both of being anti-feminist and perpetuating sexism by treating … [Read more...]


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