Late last night a member of my congregation was killed. She was someone who cared deeply about her spiritual life, who not only took classes through our church but also was moved to go through seminary. She was someone who believed, as Unitarian Universalists do, in growth, in possibility, in the urge toward the good, [Read More...]

Mansplaining, Whitesplaning, and the Power of Listening

Totally unprepared are you To face a world of men Timid and shy and scared are you Of things beyond your ken The composition date is 1959, the composers Rogers and Hammerstein, the musical The Sound of Music. “You are Sixteen Going on Seventeen” is perhaps the epitome of mansplaining. Mansplaining. It’s about speaking from [Read More...]

Five Reasons to Congregate in a Congregation

Why bother joining a congregation rather than, oh, say, a bowling league? 1. To meet people. OK, yes it’s true that you will meet new people by joining a bowling league as well, but by joining a particular sort of congregation, you will find a particular sort of people. In Unitarian Universalist congregations, and particularly [Read More...]

A little respite for our souls…

I need a little respite for my soul, soul, soul take a little time to leave my cares behind, find a little comfort and some peace of mind, some time to sit with myself and be still. -Pat Humphries, Same Rain This Labor Day, I went for a long walk with a friend and then [Read More...]

Integrity and the Big Hole in Wholeness

You’ve heard it; you’ve thought it; perhaps you’ve even said it: “She is SO together!” “How does everybody else keep it together?” “I SHOULD get myself together.” “I can’t get it together!” “Why can’t I get myself together?” “I’ve got to get myself together!” “It’s time I get myself together!” But what’s so together about [Read More...]

And Still We Rise

The poet Mark Nepo writes that when “we find ourselves in an emergency at night, in a life-changing crisis or a passage that feels quite dark, we need to lean into life, not away, and strike ourselves against the situation in order to release our soul and see by our own light. How we hold [Read More...]

As we re-member, a love note to NOLA and to life

This is a love note to my people, to friends and family and strangers who are loved simply because we went through the storm and the flood together. This is a love note to my people, friends and family and strangers who are loved because they bore witness and did not forget us. This is [Read More...]

In times of grief and struggle, remember, friends

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Some Basics About #Humanism

Definition: Humanism is an evidence-based value system dedicated to freedom of thought and the promotion of the well-being of the planet and living things. Humanism in Seven Points People matter more than ideas. People have many ways of knowing, many ways of discovering and expressing what it means to be human. All ways matter. Art [Read More...]


Sandra Bland died in police custody, and now there is video available for all to see of her encounter with the trooper who, after pulling her over, asks her to put out her cigarette.  She declines, and the cop gets more and more aggressive as she (legally) fails to comply with his requests. Now, you [Read More...]