Kinds of Love

Happy Valentine’s Day. If, you know, that’s your thing. If you happen to be one of the people who not only is in a relationship, but is in the kind of relationship where you send each other flowers and mushy notes before your romantic evening out, then good on ya’. But if you happen to [Read More...]

Collective Joy!

It is Carnival time in New Orleans! From now until Ash Wednesday, there will be beaucoup parades, parties, and costumes…While February 12th will be “just another Tuesday” in much of the country, here it will be Mardi Gras – the final day of communal revelry before the ascetic season of Lent begins. It wasn’t until [Read More...]

Guns: Relationship Status: “It’s complicated.”

I first held a gun when I was eight years old.  One of my uncles let me fire his new pistol.  I still remember the strain of trying to hold the heavy gun steady so he wouldn’t think I was too weak to try it.  All these years later, I vividly remember the incredible rush [Read More...]

Like-Hearted People

  “You need not think alike to love alike.” This was the wisdom of Francis David, spiritual advisor to King John Sigismund of Transylvania, the Unitarian king who pronounced the first edict of religious toleration in the year 1568. You need not think alike to love alike. At Unitarian Universalist gatherings, I sometimes hear “it is so nice to [Read More...]

We Are All In This Together

“If middle-class Americans do not feel threatened by the slow encroachment of the police state or the Patriot Act, it is because they live comfortably enough and exercise their liberties very lightly, never testing the boundaries. You never know you are in a prison unless you try the door.” ― Joe Bageant, Deer Hunting with Jesus: [Read More...]

What a Day for a Daydream!

It turns out I’m not as good at daydreaming as I used to be. When I was about nine, my mother would have to physically rouse me from my bed, not because I was sleeping, but because I was spending happy hours imagining my life as Mrs. Paul McCartney. My fantasies involved boats, castles, me [Read More...]

Love & Grief: Two Sides of the Same Coin

One night as the on-call hospital chaplain, I witnessed the end of three marriages, each representing over 50 years of love and struggle, as death claimed the husbands. The depth of grief of each wife haunted me for days. Was this the price of great love? Such great pain? This is what I have to look forward [Read More...]

For So the Children Come

For each child that’s born A morning star rises and sings to the universe who we are On November 12th of this year, three congregations co-ordained me, giving me a new name –  Reverend Deanna Vandiver. On the morning of December 21st, Katherine Grace was born and I received another name – Aunt De! Beloveds, [Read More...]

The Day After Newtown: Finding Our Way

And so we wake up the morning after, and it wasn’t a dream. The children are still dead, the teachers beside them. It is another day, a gray one, where people and animals must be fed and life will go on no matter how we feel. Many of us took the occasion, yesterday, to find [Read More...]

YOU GOT PEOPLE

You Got People This Public Service Announcement brought to you by a Unitarian Universalist minister who has just been creatively reminded by the universe of this important truth. Beloveds, in the crush of this season of holidays, remember that YOU GOT PEOPLE. Contrary to the images of loneliness and unworthiness being projected onto us during [Read More...]


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