Love & Grief: Two Sides of the Same Coin

One night as the on-call hospital chaplain, I witnessed the end of three marriages, each representing over 50 years of love and struggle, as death claimed the husbands. The depth of grief of each wife haunted me for days. Was this the price of great love? Such great pain? This is what I have to look forward [Read More...]

For So the Children Come

For each child that’s born A morning star rises and sings to the universe who we are On November 12th of this year, three congregations co-ordained me, giving me a new name –  Reverend Deanna Vandiver. On the morning of December 21st, Katherine Grace was born and I received another name – Aunt De! Beloveds, [Read More...]

The Day After Newtown: Finding Our Way

And so we wake up the morning after, and it wasn’t a dream. The children are still dead, the teachers beside them. It is another day, a gray one, where people and animals must be fed and life will go on no matter how we feel. Many of us took the occasion, yesterday, to find [Read More...]

YOU GOT PEOPLE

You Got People This Public Service Announcement brought to you by a Unitarian Universalist minister who has just been creatively reminded by the universe of this important truth. Beloveds, in the crush of this season of holidays, remember that YOU GOT PEOPLE. Contrary to the images of loneliness and unworthiness being projected onto us during [Read More...]

On Abundance

“We are the people of abundance, people who have known suffering and will know suffering. We are the people of abundance, people who have known love and offer our love as a blessing to our world.” ~ Naomi King We are a people of abundance. We know struggle in abundance and strength in abundance. For [Read More...]

Fireworks

Truth be told, I don’t feel like writing a blog this morning. I just feel like watching Katy Perry and an 11 year old autistic girl named Jodi DiPiazza perform Perry’s song, “Fireworks,” over and over. Having watched it about eight times now—and forced everyone who has been near my Iphone or computer to do [Read More...]

Thoughts on Death and Lasagna

Last night, as I lay dozing on the couch, I awakened with a start at 10:30 and jumped up. It was time, I suddenly knew, to make a pan of lasagna for a family where a death was imminent. Right now. Not in the morning, as I had planned. Now. As I went into the [Read More...]

A Grandson’s Rage

Politicians throw about plans for health care, Social Security, and Medicare as if they were stand-up comedians trying joke after joke to see what gets a rise out of their audience. To many of us, the effects of these plans are abstract and distant. We intellectually engage with them, thinking that our rational side is [Read More...]

Judge Not…

Toward the end of the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus says to those gathered, “Judge not, that you not be judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it, will be measured to you.” He then goes on to illustrate this nugget of wisdom with the [Read More...]

All In This Together

Vietnamese Zen master Thich Nhat Hanh teaches about something he calls interbeing. “If you are a poet,” he writes about a sheet of paper, “you will see clearly that there is a cloud floating in this sheet of paper. Without a cloud, there will be no rain; without rain, the trees cannot grow; and without [Read More...]


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