That “Third” Conversation? Never, No Never!

baptism of carmella

Fourth grade can be terrible. Not only do you get introduced to hard math, but all the kids start experimenting with identity and control. In my fourth grade class, a particular girl was in charge. Of everything. If she liked you, she would call you to tell you what color of dress to wear. (Yes, this was in the days when girls always wore dresses.) Sometimes, she would test your loyalty. She did this to my classmate, Laurie. She told Laurie to twist Barbara Hatch's arm. We were all at … [Read more...]

“Margaret Young has Weighed In.”

Margaret Young and Darius Gray at the Jane Janning James monument

These words, beginning my friend Russell Stevenson's one-sentence summary of one of my blog posts, should be spoken in fear and trepidation, and only at a Weight watcher's meeting.I had a message from a good friend urging me to respond to the response to my first blog on priesthood restrictions, etc. I am not eager to enter the fray yet again, as it is generally unkind. But my statement was not: "[T]the proper way to address this is through personal conversations with leaders in power." … [Read more...]

A Few of my Sisters

pablo choc passport picture

This is Augustina Choc and her family. It's not a great picture. You can see my thumb holding it. This was the passport picture the Choc family of Patzicia, Guatemala had when they went by bus to the Mesa, Arizona temple. They saved for years to make this trip. There were a few other families with them. One of the women who participated, Rosalia Tum, told me in her broken Spanish (she speaks Cakchiquel) how touched she was that "everyone was dressed alike." There were no distinctions … [Read more...]

Darmok and Jalad at Tanagra

hill of crosses

This was one of the last posts I did when I blogged at By Common Consent. It has renewed significance now.My husband and I recently saw a Star Trek: The Next Generation episode called “Darmok.” In it, the Enterprise is threatened with destruction if they can’t interpret the language of the “enemy” ship’s creatures. Captain Picard is sent to a planet to attempt communication with one of these “enemy” aliens. As it turns out, the aliens’ language is all based on metaphors from their folklore. … [Read more...]

Intersections

Mel Hamilton, Margaret Young, Darius Gray

Mel Hamilton is one of my heroes. He spoke on July 13th about his experience as one of the Black Fourteen at Wyoming University in 1969. He and thirteen other black players on the team—the best Wyoming had ever had and perhaps the best they will have—wanted to protest the Mormon priesthood restriction when they played BYU. They wanted to play the game, but wearing black armbands. Their coach, Lloyd Eaton, asked them to sit in the fieldhouse bleachers. … [Read more...]

Wedding Rehearsal Revisited

bruce and margaret

My husband and I celebrate twenty-eight years of marriage today, May 17th. Bruce, as most of my friends know, was my professor before he was my husband. I got free tuition when I married him. He was thirty-four and insecure. I was twenty-nine and damaged. On one of our early dates, we went to the temple. I quietly prayed that we would be able to do sealings after the endowment session–a rather odd request, I know, but it seemed terribly romantic.So there we were in the Celestial Room. A w … [Read more...]

Len Hope–in his own words

Len, mary and Duff

This is the story of Len and Mary Hope, black converts to Mormonism. Len was baptized just before WWI near Magnolia, Alabama, and Mary later on in Cincinnati. When they first attended church, they were asked not to return. Their response was, "Can we still pay our tithing?" Len and Mary became dear friends with Elder Marion D. Hanks, one of the missionaries who went to their home monthly and served them the sacrament. After the sacrament the Hope family and the missionaries would sing and … [Read more...]


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