When Divorce Is a Moral Imperative ~ Part 2

In my previous post I ended on the disheartening note that, after the failed attempt at marital counseling, I felt left on my own as to how to proceed and that the Kingdom of God was at stake. I was wrong on both counts. Help came to me surprisingly from two unexpected sources.The first was God, whom I assumed had consigned a certain level of purgatory for pastor's wives--the price to be paid for the salvation of others through the ministrations of their husbands. I shook my fist at God over … [Read more...]

When Divorce Is a Moral Imperative ~ Part 1

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 It has been 10 years since my divorce. I was married to a pastor. Our marriage ended after 24 years. I am no longer my ex-husband's wife. He has another wife and he also has another church. But this does not disqualify me from knowing the truth of what it takes to be married to pastor and why so many of these marriages fall apart in time.I am discovering that whenever I write or blog about the intractable dilemma of a Christian marriage ending in divorce, or -- more to the … [Read more...]

Advice to Newlyweds from a (Divorced) Pastor’s Wife

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I have had the privilege and shared in the glory of seeing two of my beloved nieces (sisters) get married this past spring, their respective nuptials separated by 9 weeks. (I salute my sister who pulled off these weddings with grace, hilarity and originality.)My gift to them was a letter of "advice," written at length,  over a period of weeks, with much thought and prayer. At first I thought being divorced disqualified me from rendering such advice. When I said as much, one of my nieces … [Read more...]

In This Season of Weddings, Remember the Divorced

So happy for my beloved niece on her glorious wedding day.

Ah, Spring ~ the season that inevitably, and rightly, hails a punishing schedule of weddings. The season of wedding bells begins with the earth's pivot at the vernal equinox and does not relent until we turn the clocks back in the fall. It is a glorious explosion of happiness.  I feel grateful to see so many young people I love and admire sally forth withal in nuptial optimism.Even so, let us remember the divorced people. Weddings are bruising for them, especially in the context of the … [Read more...]


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