Seven ways to avoid getting stuck

Over the years, I’ve seen people get stuck – personally and vocationally.There’s no formal definition for that place in life.  But minimally, I suppose, we are “stuck” when we are profoundly uneasy with our circumstances, at dis-ease with the direction in which our lives are moving, and apparently unable to do anything to change the situation.Some people get stuck in the past, trapped by regret, guilt, or unaddressed injustice.  Some get stuck in the present with patterns of behavior that … [Read more...]

“Teach your children…”

A midday appointment took me home through the neighborhood in which we live.  Driving along I noticed a lemonade stand operated by four little girls.  I have a weak spot for drink stands operated by children.  My brother and I spent a summer pulling a Radio Flyer through a construction site selling small bottles of Coca Cola, and I delight in supporting their efforts.When I stopped to buy my lemonade, the girls handed me a card, explaining that they were giving their profits to a program ca … [Read more...]

What does a Yoda do

Real Yodas in the workplace and in on-on-one relationships function in a way that is very different from the patterns I described yesterday. Real Yodas start with the young yedi knight… The people I have known who functioned like true mentors always put their apprentice first.  They may have had their own agendas, anxieties, responsibilities, and frustrations — but they set those aside to give their full attention to the person they were mentoring. Real Yodas find a place for young Jedi to … [Read more...]

There is no Yoda

Famously, Yoda observes, “Always two there are, no more, no less: a master and an apprentice.” “Well, yes, if lucky you are.” But in my experience of sending students off to mother church — and in an ecumenical setting, there are lots of mothers — I have watched in horror at the number of those apprentices who are forced to travel alone. It’s a dynamic worth describing, because in most cases you have either been an apprentice or you have the opportunity to be a master.  How you … [Read more...]