Abandoning My Kids for Paris

The Eiffel Tower on 9/9 as I stood under it!

Last week I did one of the most irresponsible things I’ve ever done as a parent.  I flew to Paris for a week—purely for fun—and left 3 children in their first full week of school without a parent at home.My sister surprised me just a few weeks ago by inviting me to go to Paris—she had a business trip with free hotel, her husband had frequent flier miles, and she wanted to give me a 40th birthday present (7 years late!).  The only wrinkle?  Scott had a full week of business travel already sche … [Read more...]

Mother’s Day Gifts, or Why I Never Get What I Want

My kids all have “Gift Giving” as their language of love.I do not.They love birthday gifts and Christmas gifts, special treats during the week, little surprises on a shopping trip.  And as they’ve gotten older, they also like giving gifts.  So as my birthday and Mother’s Day came 2 weeks apart, “What do you want?” became an ongoing refrain.“Obedience.”Many eye rolls.  “No!  What do you really want?”“I really want obedience.”More huffs, puffs and shaking of heads, “No, what … [Read more...]

3 Reasons I Work for Money

I'm joining the Patheos posts on the Mommy wars, including Rebecca Cusey's Beyond the Mommy-Wars Bumper Sticker,“Can you cut your trip short and come home?” came the woeful voice over the phone on the first day of my 3rd business trip this spring.“No, I can’t,” I said, “I’m sorry.”“But I NEED you,” said the child. “You’ve got to come home and discipline (sibling’s name)!”Enter a gazillion opportunities to feel guilty with even more judgments.Tina Fey writes in Bossy Pants, “T … [Read more...]

What Did YOU Give Up for Lent?

“What did YOU give up for Lent?” school friends would ask in the month before Easter.  As their resident Jesus freak, I surely would have given up something big—like all food and water. “Nothing.”  I would say,   “My church doesn’t do that.”In fact, growing up in my PC-USA church, I somehow missed out on Lent.  Instead, we had “One Great Hour of Sharing” where I took home a plastic bread shaped bank in which I was supposed to put small change every night.  Of course, I never did because I ha … [Read more...]

Some Reflections on Raising Hapa-Haole kids

“Would I be considered an Asian-American actor?” asked my stage-struck 11 year-old thespian son after we listened to an NPR story about a Filipino play—notable because of the scarcity of Asian-American plays (and roles) out there.“Probably. . . do you consider yourself Asian-American?”“No, not really.”“Do you consider yourself White?”“No.”“What do you consider yourself?”He smiled a little sheepishly, “Hapa-Haole.”In Hawaii, folks of mixed ancestry are called “Hapa. … [Read more...]

Technology, Our Blessing/Our Curse: a Reflection on “Living into Focus” by Arthur Boers

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Hey What She Said readers!  Come on over to our sister blog, "What She Read" to find out about a new book by Arthur Boers about technology and distraction.  Confession: I was thinking about this book review while sitting in Bible study while texting my friend. Does this mean I have a technology problem?Read the review here. … [Read more...]

All the Good Mothers Are Doing It

Source motherandbaby.ninemsn.com.au

I’m ready for a Southern Living moment in my tiny, charming retro kitchen. My eager children are smiling in their tiny aprons. Little chubby, willing hands wait patiently for instruction. All ingredients are perfectly and prettily measured into stylish prep bowls – you know, in that annoying way they do on cooking show segments. (I particularly get a culinary kick out of the way they put the finished dish in the oven and the second oven already has a finished dish in it. Hark!) My children even e … [Read more...]

Mom Guilt

Children who appear happy although they do not eat enough vegetables.

Motherhood comes with a lot of guilt. My kids don’t eat enough vegetables. I don’t do enough crafts with them. I don’t have them make their beds daily. Well, ever. I don’t greet them fully dressed and with act together in the mornings. I don’t give satisfactory answers to my six-yr-old’s why-does-God-allow-pain questions. I can’t take organic cupcakes secretly laced with nutritional hummus to every church and school occasion. Sometimes I’m too exhausted to make themost of a golden parenti … [Read more...]


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