What Did YOU Give Up for Lent?

“What did YOU give up for Lent?” school friends would ask in the month before Easter.  As their resident Jesus freak, I surely would have given up something big—like all food and water. “Nothing.”  I would say,   “My church doesn’t do that.” In fact, growing up in my PC-USA church, I somehow missed out on Lent.  Instead, we had “One Great Hour of Sharing” where I took home a plastic bread shaped bank in which I was supposed to put small change every night.  Of … [Read more...]

Some Reflections on Raising Hapa-Haole kids

“Would I be considered an Asian-American actor?” asked my stage-struck 11 year-old thespian son after we listened to an NPR story about a Filipino play—notable because of the scarcity of Asian-American plays (and roles) out there. “Probably. . . do you consider yourself Asian-American?” “No, not really.” “Do you consider yourself White?” “No.” “What do you consider yourself?” He smiled a little sheepishly, “Hapa-Haole.” In Hawaii, folks of … [Read more...]

How Target Knew a Teen Was Pregnant Before Her Father Did

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Forbes has an interesting piece that will make you think twice before sliding your debit card: Every time you go shopping, you share intimate details about your consumption patterns with retailers. And many of those retailers are studying those details to figure out what you like, what you need, and which coupons are most likely to make you happy. Target, for example, has figured out how to data-mine its way into your womb, to figure out whether you have a baby on the way long before you … [Read more...]

Behind the Parenting Mask

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For better or for worse, a great deal of parenting for me is keeping on a mask, keeping up a good front to my kids so that they don't know how stressed or upset I get at times managing my eldest son's autism and managing the very different needs of all three of them. I wrote about what goes on behind my parenting mask over on my blog, "Muslimah Next Door." Here's an excerpt: One night last week during dinner, my husband, our two younger kids and I were eating dinner while our eldest son was in … [Read more...]

My Family Is Just Right

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I do believe I have the perfect number of children--four. Four is the perfect balance between large families and small. Four seems just large enough that those moms with fewer children (especially just one or two) make much over my brood and my seemingly supermom abilities (ha!). And four is just enough to give me an ounce of street cred with the moms of the real large families. Four masquerades carefully between. In truth, four is really no harder than one or two (especially since they … [Read more...]

Who is Amazing Grace, Anyway?

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Unfortunately, a nasty stomach bug got the best of my nine year-old son William this past weekend.  I found myself sitting with him as he lounged in and out of sleep in front of the TV.  During his sickness, he was so calm, reasonable and responsible - eating a dry toast dinner without complaint, making quick beelines to the bathroom, and showing gratitude with multiple “thank you Mom’s” when I brought him meager sustenance and plenty of liquids. But somewhere around his tenth sweet … [Read more...]

Are You Enjoying Every Single Moment?

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If you’re a parent, how many well-intentioned people have come up to you (usually when you’re frantically trying to pay for your groceries before you and/or your children explode) and said, “I hope you’re enjoying every second, it goes by so fast." Every second?  Really?? Glennon Melton writes in Don't Carpe Diem in The Huffington Post: But last week, a woman approached me in the Target line and said the following: “Sugar, I hope you are enjoying this.  I loved every … [Read more...]

Bossy Christmas

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I have been really silent here at What She Said. I get really quiet when I’m wrestling. Major indicator you need an attitude adjustment: Your six-year-old son asks, “Mama, why don’t you like Christmas?” Oh, my. Is it that obvious? I suppose if you are short with answers, too busy to play, and constantly asking, “Now, where did I put my coffee?” a sharp boy will notice. Having children has forced my Christmas wrestling to a new level. And this year my schedule doesn’t … [Read more...]


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