The Pressure of the Perfect Pregnancy

In some ways media makes you think that pregnancy is a time for fulfilling your every whim, getting foot rubs, eating whatever strikes your fancy, and having strangers be extra nice to you. In reality the pressure to do everything perfectly increases enormously when pregnant. You may go in thinking that now is the time when I can eat mac and cheese guilt free, but during pregnancy there is no such thing as guilt free.You scrutinize everything you eat knowing that it will effect your baby and … [Read more...]


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On Medication

I'm feeling a lot better than I was last week. Not 100% but a lot better.I went to see my midwife and I was a total wreck. She prescribed me Zoloft, which is thought to be safer in pregnancy than a depressed mother-to-be. Though it takes a few weeks to build up to its full effect, I actually started feeling better after about three days. It was hard to tell exactly. I couldn't see what was different, yet my tone of voice was lighter in a way that my husband and my mother both noticed.I … [Read more...]


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Antenatal Depression

Many of you know that I've struggled with depression in the past (see my post on Hinduism and Depression). I thought that it was resolved and mostly behind me, that I could effectively deal with any little flareups. But within weeks of becoming pregnant it was back in full force.This feels deeply unfair. I'm finally getting everything that I wanted in life, the baby that I worked so hard for, and I can't enjoy it. Depression is in no way logical. I mean, yes you can be situationally … [Read more...]


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Where To Find Me On The Web

I thought it would be nice to gather my usernames on various social media sites and get them all in one place! In case you want to follow me elsewhere and maybe see other little tidbits and aspects of my life...YouTubeMy YouTube channel is here. I post videos occasionally, but I'm planning to do a bunch more. My husband and I are starting a video series where we playfully debate with each other on various philosophical issues. I'd like to turn it into a podcast eventually. I'm thinking … [Read more...]


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Making Connections

This past weekend I was at a conference in Massachusetts. One of the talks that I went to was about cultural misappropriation, which is always a good topic for me to engage with. There wasn't a lot of new information for me, but it was good to talk about it with new people and get new perspectives.One thing the moderator brought up was the idea that if you are taking something from traditions that aren't yours (or your ancestors') then you have to give back to the tradition in some way. And … [Read more...]


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I Don’t Like Kimmy Schmidt (What It’s Really Like to Leave a Cult)

There's a show now created by Tina Fey (whose work I do like) called The Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt. And it's doing quite well, which really surprises me. I watched the first few episodes and found it so absurdly unrealistic that I couldn't continue. The premise is that Kimmy Schmidt was one of three young women in a doomsday cult kept underground in a bunker but that her spirit and hope was never broken and once she is liberated she uses that Pollyanna optimism to succeed in life.The people w … [Read more...]


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White Hindu Conversations Part Six

Someone on Facebook in a Hindu group posts a chart of Hinduism and for modern philosophies it includes only Advaita. A man comments that he's a born Hindu and doesn't see himself represented. I note that the chart seems to be missing quite a few sects, branches, and philosophies.His response? Hindu is group of sects and sect are not rigid like abrahamic religions So I'm agreeing with him that he doesn't seem to be represented but his response is to make enormous assumptions about me and my … [Read more...]


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Reflections on the Week

I came to my computer to write a post and found that my cat is sleeping peacefully on my desk chair. He's too cute to move so I'm typing the best I can around him.This past Friday was Karwa Chauth. Last year I missed it completely. Didn't know it was happening until it was over. This year I knew it was coming but there was no way I could fast. And because of that I didn't really observe it much at all. My awareness of it happening came and went throughout the day. Hopefully next year Brad … [Read more...]


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Hindu Names for American Babies

We have been thinking a lot about baby names recently. Hindu tradition is that you wait to name a baby until after it is born. The astrological chart is used to determine the best syllable to start the name with. We have decided, however, to follow American tradition of having names picked out and ready.I want my children to have a Hindu name. They don't necessarily have to go by it but I'd like them to have the option. I also decided that I would pick Hindu names that are easy for Americans … [Read more...]


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