Real Leaders, Real Bosses, Failure Parents

Dad, as we drive to church while I'm ripping the kids for not cleaning the kitchen the night before:  If you grow up and don’t meet your expectations at work, you get fired.Kid:  At work they have real leaders and people that actually care about you--unlike you two.Ouch.Of course, this statement was so ludicrous on so many levels that the 4 other members of the family burst into laughter and laughed the rest of the way to church.  A good thing too, because before then I was in a v … [Read more...]

Sports Mama. . . Not

In so many movies and novels, a wounded, emotionally-stunted protagonist (maybe even a serial killer) tearfully blurts out, "My father never came to one of my games. . ."  The implication being that not attending one's kids' sports events is at the very least child neglect and at the most child abuse. Guilty.I can't believe it!  There's even jewelryfor the moms I'm not!In 15 years of parenting, I've managed to miss the vast majority of kid soccer, softball, baseball, swimming or track … [Read more...]

Annie, Shoot your Gun Already!

SPOILER ALERT!  Don't read if you don't want to know what happens at the end of Annie get Your Gun!"That's the worst movie I've ever seen," Ling announced after we watched Annie Get your Gun, the Irving Berlin musical about Annie Oakley, a sharpshooter with the Buffalo Bill Wild West show.Today, Kai and Ren auditioned for the play, so we watched the movie as part of their research. It's a fun story.  Annie Oakley, a spunky, illiterate hick gets discovered when she joins a … [Read more...]


Last week, the whole family watched the movie Parenthood to celebrate Labor Day Eve.Friends recently saw it and raved.  So when I noticed it was a a streaming video on Netflix, and remembered that the last time I watched the movie I was not a parent (in fact, I hadn't even met Scott), I thought it would be a good chance for Scott and I to laugh and commiserate.Problem #1, the movie's rated PG-13, and we have an 11 year old. Problem #2, what to do with kids? With a day off the next … [Read more...]

The Gift of an Hour

When I was in graduate school, a senior director in my ministry gave a testimony about taking day-long quiet days with God.  It was such a great talk I invited him to give it 2 more times to 2 different groups. But one thing he said has stuck in my craw ever since becoming a mom.  His daily prayer involved showing up 45 minutes before the first appointment of the morning and having a quiet time in a nearby park or coffee shop.As I've borne 3 kids and tried to work part-time throughout … [Read more...]


Last Friday our house was T-P- ed. The 2 girls and I drove home at 8:30 pm to find toilet paper streamers hanging from trees, wrapped around the front railings and strewn over our new sod.  Shaving cream squiggles decorated the sidewalk along with a couple feminine hygiene products (new and used--eew!). Not our house--Ling took pictures, but I don't have them!A sinking feeling hit my gut--who hates us so much that they would do this?  Who have we unwittingly offended? My thoughts … [Read more...]


You may have noticed that I'm just slightly obsessive around turning gray, yet not wanting to dye my hair.  This was exacerbated when several folks in Hawaii last month exclaimed about the gray/white streak running down the right side of my head.  That's what happens when you don't see your friends for 5 years.I took a closer look in the mirror and noticed that indeed, the gray streak that runs from just below my temple to my ear is quite noticeable.  Flipping my hair around, I … [Read more...]

A Conversation Last Week

She:  Would I still have to go to youth group tonight if there was a family death?Me:  Probably not. . .  (I think about it a little more).  Well maybe you'd still go because what else would you to do tonight other than be sad?She:  I'd have things to do!Me:  Like what?She:  Like plan my funeral outfit!Perhaps I need to buy this book. . .Me:  (After some shocked silence and open-mouthed gaping)  You do remember that vanity's a sin, don't you?She: … [Read more...]