For the Body of Christ, Not a Parish

My husband and I and our parish friends have waited months for the BIG DECISION. I surprised myself by leaving Mass tonight oddly unaffected by the Bishop’s announcement that our parish will be changing its name and merging with two other parishes.  I felt nothing, absolutely nothing.

As I pulled out of the parking lot and headed to the grocery store, I turned on the car radio. Matt Maher’s “Christ is Risen” was playing.  I realized once again I’m not Catholic because of a parish. I am a Catholic because I believe, as Pope Benedict XVI says: “In a world seeking human certainties and heavenly security… Christ is the solid rock upon which to build the edifice of one’s own life, and …trust placed in Him is never placed in vain.”

Like many Catholics in the Northeast United States, we worship at a parish with a dwindling membership in an area undergoing dramatic demographic change. My husband and I have been deeply involved with the life of this parish. And both our sons are too. They made their First Communions here and are altar servers. One problem with our neighborhood parish is that members do not reflect the faces in our community. About one-third of our sixth grader’s public-school classmates are Latino, yet few of those families choose to worship at our church, which is within walking distance. Instead, these families choose to drive to another town, where the parishes now are overflowing. One parish was so crowded at Christmas, that 200 worshippers had to stand in the sanctuary to pray.

Our bishop, keenly aware of the problem here and elsewhere, recently oversaw a process to merge and combine churches. I went to a few public forums at our parish. Frankly, I was deeply disappointed by some of the adults, who sounded scared of worshiping with folks from cultures which differ from their own. These past few months I have heard some most uncharitable words and attitudes from some devout parishioners.

The question I am asking myself, however, is: who am I to feel disappointment in people? After all, God, in His infinite love, chose to create each of us. And here’s another question: How often do I myself fall short of His glory?

How deeply we tend to attach ourselves to human structures – buildings and jobs and political parties and parishes and on and on. This isn’t what God wants. We need to adhere ourselves to Him, only Him, because only He can satisfy our deepest yearning.

“Christ is risen from the dead. We are one with Him again…Forever let your Church proclaim Christ…”Sing it!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/15724518800430532026 Sandy C.

    In a small town a few miles east of us, two parishes merged a few years ago for similar reasons to those you describe. My son Lucas and I attended mass at the newly merged parish a couple of summers ago and I have visited the Perpetual Eucharistic Adoration chapel several times. The new parish seems to be thriving. I pray also for your parish that the change may bring new life and vitality.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/16021781602272064901 Allison

    That is heartening. Thank you Sandy C!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/18220245768356903862 Karen

    There is much wisdom in your thinking! Hopefully others will be open to that. Prayers for the parishes involved in the merger.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/14444361367208483037 Ruth Ann

    Allison, what you are describing is becoming more and more common. Change of this kind brings out the best and worst in people. Some of us are more inclined to fear change than others. Maybe they are timid souls. Others forge ahead. Maybe they are adventurous souls. We certainly need each other.I think you are on target when you say you are not Catholic because of a parish, but because of Christ. I would add that an important, even central virtue in Catholic spirituality is detachment, or as St. Ignatius called it, indifference to all but Christ.I wish your parish well.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/16021781602272064901 Allison

    Ruth Ann: Thanks for stopping by and commenting. I really appreciate your insights, especially given that you are invovled deeply in Carmelite spirituality. God created us as diverse peoples – I like what you said that some souls are timid and some adventuresome. Also, I hadn't read what St. Ignatius said. And I like it!Blessings.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/02647220453777040327 Paula

    Eventually, some grief will kick in…and when it does, know that I am praying for you!

  • http://vitaconsecrata.wordpress.com/ vitaconsecrata

    "How deeply we tend to attach ourselves to human structures – buildings and jobs and political parties and parishes and on and on. This isn't what God wants. We need to adhere ourselves to Him, only Him, because only He can satisfy our deepest yearning."AMEN! I need to remember this often. Thank you for this post!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/16021781602272064901 Allison

    And thank you for stopping by. Your blog is great!